Why is it so hard to make mum friends 😫
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Hey, yes I’m totally there with you. It’s incredibly hard. I’m introverted but wouldn’t say I was standoffish (just referencing comment above), I take my boy over to other mums and use him to start conversation but they are already with their friends/group and so don’t make any effort with me. Sorry you’re feeling this way xx
@Shannyn sorry wasn't trying to imply all introverts are standoffish by any means, just can be harder to strike up that convo sometimes!
@Robyn thank you for your honesty. I’ll give that a go x
@Shannyn it’s nice to know there’s people in the same boat x
@Shannyn just jumping in to say that I’ve just moved to Liverpool having not lived here since uni - partner is from here. We’ve been living in London! I also need mum friends & I struggle making them! But my boy is a bit older than your baby. He’s 14 months! Around for coffee if you ever fancy it! x
@Tania yes!! I will message you xx
If you feel that way about groups, you’re on this app try to reach out and utilise this app more. Don’t be afraid of waving, reaching out, sending that first msg. I’ve made so many good friends from here, just going through my swipe feed and starting a chat, then moving the chat, then inviting out. You’ll might miss a great opportunity otherwise. Good luck. Don’t stop going to those groups though, maybe one day you’ll see another awkward new mum in the corner but you’ll have to have courage to walk up to her because she’s probably feeling the exact same as you.
In honesty, as an extrovert I find it very hard to speak to introverted people as they look scared and standoffish themselves. Not in a mean way, I just don't want to overwhelm them, maybe they don't want to chat etc. I'm sure mums would be happy to make friends but you have to push to say hello, how old is your little ones etc etc. Have you tried a 1 on 1 coffee meet with someone on here? That's prob an easier way to start as theres much less pressure on you than a group of mums already chatting away to each other? Wishing you luck!