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Hi Francesca, that sounds awful! My partner is away Monday, Tuesday, Thursday and Friday. Comes home most Wednesdays and weekends. I think I'd rather him be away and possibly miss the birth than him be away straight after, I think the stress would be unreal. Has your husband stayed in the army? Its the mess around I'm struggling with, there's no reassurance and the chopping and changing of plans is hard work. X
@Charity no he’s been out nearly a year (still does reserves though which is a Wednesday night and roughly one weekend a month). He started to miss out on so much of our son’s life he couldn’t face being away any more. He was posted away multiple times and after a mess up with dates and flights nearly missed his 1st birthday! That was the final straw. It is doable though, have a strong network around you and if you force yourself to get out and about as much as possible. Even if it’s just chatting to a random person in a cafe. Don’t isolate and always be honest with your partner if the time away is getting to you. Unfortunately the army will always be so unpredictable but on the plus side it is a very secure job.
Yeah, that's the experience I've had so far. Mess up with flights, chopping and change dates and plans very last minute. I have a feeling my partner will get fed up and call it quits too. The security is a positive, but I think being and outsider looking in, it's hard to see the appeal. 😅 x
@Charity I will say there’s a lot of good opportunities out there for ex military! Tell him to start networking and looking now 🤣
My partner is in the military so feel your pain! X
Totally get how you are feeling it's so hard. My partner is away until I go into labour and hopefully get him to fly back in time. It's so stressful and pregnancy is so emotional without a partner to come home to xx
Hi! Not exactly the same but my husband is currently living abroad in the Middle East for work (I was supposed to join him but when we fell pregnant I stayed in the UK). He can only be in the UK for 30 days at a time so we’re desperately planning when he should come home for the birth so he makes it in time but also gets time with the baby afterwards - impossible to plan! It’s not quite the same situation as you but if you want to reach out I definitely have understanding of being alone with husband far away (he’s been away a year so far, with the odd trip home).
Hey! My husband was regular army when we had our son. He was 100 miles away when early labour started 🙃 got back hours before my waters broke. Then at 5 weeks old he was deployed to Poland for 2.5 months (to add he also worked away Monday to Friday)! So I can fully understand everything you’re going through.