How can you be friends with people that are wealthy in comparison to you when they don't understand how your lives differ?
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I'm just so lonely I'm feeling pressured to agree. I typically get invited absolutely nowhere. Some of the ladies are from a disabled parent support group and we have some things in common but money fixes a lot of problems when you have a disabled child too. I've tried to make friends with other people but it seems some use me for free babysitting or rides places or favors . It's been years of no true friendships
Having money doesn’t make you a shitty friend… me and my best friend are in completely different places in life and financially. If I ask her to do anything I know is pricey I insist on paying. Shes younger single and is having a baby by herself, me and my husband just gave her a thousand dollars towards a maternity leave. Shes my best friend and i don’t talk to her like money just happens, i know what its like to struggle and i keep that in mind, our friendship is much deeper than what either of us can afford to do. And it sounds like these friendships aren’t
Reading this is so upsetting. As the friend in the circle group who now has money, I frequently pay for my friend if we’re going out, I help if they are behind on rent, I take their child out shopping/lunch when I know they need a break. My husband and I both believe that we are in a position to help people. If I ever made one of my friends or family members feel the way you described it would break my heart!! Everything you’re feeling is so valid. They are either completely tone deaf or intentionally mean and that’s so upsetting.
@Stacey 🇵🇸 I don't expect her to give me money or pay for me it's just she cannot expect me to have limitless finances either
Oh I know and I definitely didn’t mean to imply that those were your expectations. I’m just saying that it sounds like her heart is in a really a strange place. Her expectations aren’t reasonable and I feel like that just really sucks.
I'm sorry. That's so inconsiderate and ignorant. I think you just haven't found your people just yet. There are people in my friend group with all different levels of financial means and everyone is very considerate of one another. I hope you find someone soon who gets it.
@JL I really do hope so but at this point I've been trying for years with no real success. I don't have even one friend I could call now. I haven't had anyone at all for over a year. It's extremely hard making friends when you have a child who cannot play and interact like a normal child and has medical limitations. We sometimes will get invited once and never again
Those women sound inconsiderate, tone deaf and out of touch with reality. Do you really want to be friends with such people? I have friends whose net worth are in the millions and when we go out to eat they are not fussed if we don’t go to Michelin star restaurants. If they were the type of people who constantly liked to flash their wealth in my face we would not be friends. I don’t care about how much money you make, I value who you are as a person and if we get along. When you meet new people and they invite you out places, if you can’t afford it, just suggest somewhere cheaper within your budget. Genuine people who are interested in getting to know you will not be bothered by this. You shouldn’t have to explain what you can/can’t afford or even justify WHY you can’t afford such niceties. Most people who aren’t wealthy get it. Shit is hard and we are in a cost of living crisis. If you’re finding yourself feeling less than by comparison with others, it’s time to find new friends.