Marriage/Living Situation

Looking on a little insight of how you guys managed housing/marriage. A little backstory, I live at home with my mom and my bf moved in a few months ago. I’m still in school to get my MBA and have 3 more semesters before graduation (2026). I also personally do not want to leave home without being married. That way I’m for sure I’m not leaving home for no reason. There’s also a high chance that the engagement will be sometime this year. My view: We get engaged, have the wedding and then get our house. His view: We get engaged, get our house, then have the wedding. He feels as if I’m “too comfortable” being okay with being married and still living with my mom. Which I don’t understand and makes no sense. Can anyone provide advice please?

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Wedding and marriage is most symbolic and important. Wedding first above all

Plus you may move all your stuff in and then he calls it off. Some men are like that.

Exactly! It makes sense to me to save money towards that first and then the house. Thank you!! @Jaylin

Me personally would do it the way he suggested. But I also can’t imagine living at home past 18 so maybe I can’t relate. Being alone when you’re newly married is important I think

@Allexys after college I came back home with my baby. My plan is to move into my own home eventually, but I don’t the idea of feeling rushed and then I’m left with additional responsibilities when I could’ve waited until I’m actually ready. If that makes sense 😅. But I can completely understand the being alone right after marriage. That makes sense to me too

I think you need to look at money. He may be fearful that you’re going to get married and stuck living apart and or at your mom’s forever. Which is no picnic when you’re married I don’t care if she’s the greatest woman on earth. It’s uncomfortable. On your end it could be so we get engaged, buy a house, and no money for wedding. What do you both comfortably have money for now? All of it? None of it? Part of it? Make a plan together, get a timeline together. This may mean he doesn’t want to propose until you both have enough money to go ahead with your lives and that’s okay too.