MIL staying, going insane!

My MIL is staying with us for 3 weeks, 4 weeks after the birth of our second girl. She’s coming over from NZ (we live in England) and has said she wants to help. She’s a nice enough lady but I’m finding her staying with us too much. My husband is back at work and I’m having to entertain her all day. The days when my oldest is at nursery, I’d like to catch up on some housework with youngest in the sling/binge watch some trash tv. But I can’t when she’s around ALL the time. She also talks A LOT. I like a chat but it’s constant questions, statements and observations on our little ones. I am very tired with newborn sleep and when I can, just appreciate some peace and quiet. My husband doesn’t get to see her much, so I don’t want to make it an issue but I have another 2 weeks with her and need to find a way to coexist with her for my own sanity. If you have any tips or have had a similar experience, please share 🙏
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I always find that asking people questions seems to work. So things like 'oh what do you think I could do quicker dishes or changing the bedding?' She would hopefully offer to do one so you can do the other, and get some peace away from her. My example is crap but hopefully helps you

Give her a project. Preferably something with small pieces that she needs to do in another room. Give her a scrapbook to make or a sewing project for LO. Have her make elaborate Christmas stockings for all of you... She will feel useful and occupied and you will have the rest of the house to yourself.

Ask her to go pick up lunch or do a grocery run so she is "helping" and you get a little peace. Also tell hubby to take a day off work and spend a day out of the house with her

Keep banging on about sleepless nights and stay in your room with baby pretending you’re sleeping. Binge watch tv on your phone or iPad or laptop or something with headphones in. And enjoy the guilty pleasure!!!! Nobody wants this so soon after giving birth, omg!!!! 😨

With my 3 I had my MIL stay with us for a week after we’d had each of them, then I’d have the FIL come and spend a similar time with us as well as husbands parents are separated. I completely understand where you’re coming from, it’s so difficult. I send you huge hugs. Sometimes you just want to be by yourself anyway and I feel like this can be the case even more after what you’ve been through with a birth. I’d do as others have said, take yourself away and have some time in your room by yourself. Catch up on some sleep or watch something. Maybe say you’ve had a really bad night with the baby so you’re going to catch up on some sleep. I find that I make excuses sometimes or even just go into another room and start doing some jobs. She can’t expect you to be around her all of the time. I really feel for you though because you feel like you just can’t get away from them 🥰 feel free to message me if you want, even if it’s just to vent xxx

Times like this we need an app for MILs called “Raisin” so they can meet up with other grandmas in the area and mingle.

Pass baby to her and do your housework? That's absolutely what I'd be doing! Lol. My parents came to visit when my baby was a week old and I handed her to them so I could get on with stuff

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