Failing

I feel like I’m failing. This is by far the hardest phase of little ones life, and I am hardly coping. He’s SO WHINY. He just cries constantly for everything and anything. He doesn’t want to play with toys, he just wants to turn light switches on and off over and over. I spend all day following him around the house. I feel disconnected from myself, disconnected from my husband, disconnected from my friends, and ultimately disconnecting from my son, because I’m just finding it so hard and tiresome. Is anyone else in this phase? Please tell me it’s a phase!!! I have loved every minute of motherhood until he hit 13 months. The last two months have just made me question ever having a child. I dread waking up in the morning. Any advice would be great xxx

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No true advise except your doing a great job and yes it's just a phase! My 15mth old is the same, he currently doesn't sleep, cries all night and then is awake from 5.30am no matter what I do or try! Woukd your little one like a busy board?? You could make one yourself or buy them. Made up of all things like switches/locks etc they can 'fiddle' with. Not any help at all except hang in there mama, fingers crossed there's an end soon xx

This sounds very much like my little boy! He is not interested in toys, he just wants random items from around the house (most of which are not appropriate - sharp stuff, glass stuff, etc.) and cries if I won't give them to him. He loves anything that opens and closes and just wants to do this all day. He's pretty much only content if he is opening cupboards and pulling everything out...which is okay sometimes...but not all day everyday. He's very difficult to keep content, and I try to take him out as much as possible because of this. I'm hoping it's just a phase too!

@Caitlin thank you for sharing, it sounds the exact same. Screaming when I won’t let him get the knives out of the knife drawer, or play with my grandmas china 😭

@Carla he has one, but sadly because it doesn’t actually turn the lights on or off… he just walks away from it. It’s so frustrating. Oh well. I’ll just wait it out! Thank you x

I hear you mama. As a former nursery nurse I KNOW this is a phase, but being in the middle of it means that information is really no comfort. I feel like my LO hates and is bored of me and being in our home, his toys. I have to get him off sofas constantly....I have even worried about his development because of how he is just throwing toys. HV may reassure you? They did me. I will say the saving grace is when we're out.....anywhere that is not home....he's much happier. Granted, it can be exhausting to always be taking him out, and circumstances may prevent you, but I find it makes life easier. I take him to the local library....he spends 30 seconds looking at a book and the rest crawling round, walk him to the shops, take him to slimming group even, swimming. It's very easy to feel alienated....do you have friends who are parents and you can have coffee dates? Also, if he loves light switches try making that work for you with fidget boards? Like all things this will end my lovely. You're doing great. X

@Gina thanks so much for sharing that x

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