Bd and family dilemma

Been having consistent challenges in my relationship, he feels I am disrespectful, quick to throw away the relationship, not feminine and have low standards. I have issues with his highly critical nature, demand of perfection in terms of appearance, food, home etc and verbal assults, lack of accountability and willingness to consider my emotional needs. We have had several fights where I’ve asked to terminate the relationship or my family have told him to leave my home. Most recently my brother made him leave in an aggressive nature and my sister sent him msges expressing concerns regarding social services involvement and said that if we continue our volatile relationship she would care for our daughter herself. I am hoping to repair issues with him but he is now demanding that the baby doesn’t see my brother or sister again and he is saying that due to his lack of loyalty from me he will be openly unfaithful. What should I do? Should I try to work on the issues and the hurt he feels from being kicked out and refuse my siblings from seeing the baby in hopes this will repair our relationship?

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Run. For. The. Hills. If this were your child asking you for advice what would you say? Its easy for me to say this with very little context, but I'd argue you are worth far more than what he's leading you to believe. Anyone who asks you to choose between your family and them is a huge red flag, too.

Your family have your best interest, choose them! Also if your sister is wanting to take your daughter she must see something in him that love is blinding you with. If you can’t choose your family, choose your daughter, maybe live with your sister too to get away easier, then you have some support around 💕 he just sounds like he wants to mute you so you blend into the background and stop you being you. You’ve got this mama! You deserve the world and more 💕 xxx

Thank you ladies i really appreciate your advice x

I've been through this. And still on going....basically avoid involving family. Keep the issues between the two of you. Either leave or resolve them ....but involving family makes it 10 times harder to resolve

@Skye 100% whenever family gets involved everything becomes so much worse. If you want the relationship then you need to prioritise it and stop letting your family control it and fix things yourself. If you don’t want the relationship then let your family do whatever and you can pick over the ruins later on x

Agreed x

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