Hi mamas ,
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Honestly my man would never. It’s one of those trips you only do once but if you tell him your concerns and he still wants to go and is set on it. Let him. But communicate that you’re not happy with HIS choice..We also have a 3 month old (as of. 2 days ago) and he told one of his best friends that he won’t be at his destination wedding because it doesn’t “accommodate our family at this time” but wished him the best and we sent a good gift to make up for it. So kinda similar situation. We prioritize our family over EVERYTHING but every family is different. We’re both wired that way - a lot of people aren’t and that’s OKAY. You just need to be on the same page with your partner especially when kiddos are involved
My husband will be going to Ireland later this year for a wedding. I don’t anticipate night feedings but will want a break. I’m having my sister come in town the weekend before the trip so I can be fully rested and refreshers. My in-laws might also help out that week too so I’m not out of energy. So maybe see if you can use family or night support if you’re ok with him going? I am supportive of him going since I’ve already been and it’s for a best friend. But if it was a distant friend, and he wasn’t super into it, I’d suggest him to stay.
It's 1 week. If he is otherwise supportive and helpful and this isn't a regular thing, let the man go if you have enough support and help to get you through the week.
I’d be stressed that’s for sure! And I wouldn’t be too happy about it. But I also wouldn’t want him to miss out on that great opportunity to spend that time with a close friend of his. I think I’d make sure he did the night feedings for a couple nights leading up to it, letting me get as much sleep as possible. And then suck it up and push through for the week. Then when he’s back, have him take over for a couple days so I can have a break and a breather.
If it were me, I would hate for my husband to miss out on a fun trip like that, especially if you guys don't otherwise travel much and especially if it's a bachelor party for a close friend of his. I love for my guy to have fun. That said, if he went on a five day trip, I know he would plan to take the kids for a day when he returned, and/or do most night feeds for a few days after getting back. Maybe you guys can work out something like that? If you fully handle the kids for five days without him, he should take on the majority of the work when he gets back so you get a break too! And of course, you would expect that if you want to go on a trip in the future, he can handle it (assuming you are not nursing). Or, another option is, if you can afford it, hire help over night for the days he's out of town.