My partner decided he doesn’t want to have another baby

Hey guys, So my partner just dropped a bomb on me that he does not want to have any more babies in the future and plans to get a vasectomy. He has always wanted multiple children. We have one beautiful toddler who is the light of our life and such a blessing. He knows how much it means to me to have a big family, I have always dreamed of having 3 kids. I laid awake crying all night long thinking about how I will never again experience pregnancy or all the “firsts” with another baby. His reasoning is that our first pregnancy was unplanned and “traumatized him” so now he does not want to have any more kids. We have been very happy so I don’t know where this is coming from. Just a week ago he was talking about plans for our next baby and how excited we would be. I feel like my options are to either stay together for our daughter and live with resentment and sadness for the rest of my life or to break up our family and now have my daughter in a broken home. This is not the life we planned together. I am devastated, any kind words of wisdom would help

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Gosh that sounds really tough, I have no advice just wanted to say that sounds so difficult. To be honest I have been very similar to your husband, one week I’m talking about how I can’t wait to have another baby and see our little one play with a sibling. Then I have a really tough day and say to my husband that I am absolutely not having another baby and I’d like him to get a vasectomy. Your husband might be firm in his decision, but given that he’s been talking about having more children, could he just be having a tough parenting time at the minute? My husband always says to me, let’s not make any firm decisions right now and come back to this in a month (he’s very good at staying calm when parenting is very bloody difficult!) I hope things work out for you both ❤️

Tell him to wait and give it some time . I can relate to him as of now I’m one and done . But I’m not getting my tubes tied yet

Okay so my man told me he didn't want any kids at all when we were talking about it , saying he didn't want to bring any kids into the this messed up world . And literally 3 weeks later we were pregnant, and he's absolutely the best dad ever . let him feel his feelings and let him get his vasectomy. They are reversible. But like another said , no one should be making any decisions. Wait until parenting gets familiar.You will get your babies , but you gotta let the man feel the overwhelming emotions of being a new dad. Men can also get Post partum depression and he probably feels like he's doing a bad job. Me personally ?? I'm terrified to have another baby , we are struggling in our own way with just the one. Let him ride the wave , especially if he has always wanted 3 kids .

Firstly, he's well within his rights to change his mind, especially now he has a child and is realising how hard it is. Raising kids is HARD and relentless, so I absolutely get his POV! I was undecided for several years about whether I wanted my last baby (my partners first my 3rd), one day I was for it and the next I was adamant I was done, it was a real rollercoaster of emotions. Seems to me like you really do only have 2 options if he isn't willing to compromise on this.

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