Making the wrong choice

Pls tell me I’ve done the right thing being pregnant again. I’m so excited to have another baby but the immense guilt I feel for my eldest is eating me alive. She’ll be 2y2months when baby is born but she’s still super super needy when it comes to certain things, she still contact naps and still needs to be cuddled to sleep this can be anywhere from 15 mins to an hour. I refuse to stop this just because I’m having another baby I don’t think it’d be fair on her but I’m also really struggling to wrap my head around how I’m going to make it work. She won’t settle next to me in bed she has to literally be on one of us (she likes to hump to sleep weird Ik but she’s done it since she was about 6 months and it clearly soothes her). My partner works like 13 hour shifts so he’s never home until 9/10 at night so it’ll be to late for him to help out I’ll be doing bedtimes solo after his 3 weeks paternity. I just don’t know what I’m going to do, she’s the kindest, sweetest girl I know she’s going to be the best big sister but there’s apart of me that’s thinking I should’ve waited a year or so. I’ve got 4 months left and it’s just going way quicker than I wanted it to, I feel like I’ve just got myself back and into a good routine with my eldest I’m really not ready for our worlds to be turned upside down again but then on the other hand I can’t wait 😂 I’m telling myself to just grin and bear it take everyday as it comes and in the end we’ll get there but like I said I can’t help but feel awful for my eldest!

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Hey I know how your feeling my little one will be a week from turning 2 when I’m due my second and when I first found out the guilt I felt was so bad. Now I’m almost 17 weeks I feel a lot better. No advice on the contact naps sorry I’m just trying to get my baby to sleep in his own room for the full night as it’ll be easier when I have a newborn. I’m lucky he sleeps most of the night in his own room just trying to make it it the full night. The first year will probably be really hard but I’m just trying to think of how nice it will for them to grow up close in age together xx

I was 6 months pp when I found out I was pregnant again, the baby is now 5 months and I'm not going to lie it's the hardest thing I have ever done. I absolutely adore my children and I wish I had waited a little longer BUT watching my children together is the most amazing thing and the good definitely outweighs the bad. My partner does 16 hour days, so I do it all basically except for his days off and mornings. I find bedtime the hardest but it is slowly getting easier, when im having a hard day I just remember that this is fleeting and I need to soak up as much as I can. My second born was so hard, he had colic, constipation and reflux and it felt like things were never going to get better but obviously it does. He is now the happiest sweetest little boy and I couldn't be more blessed to have these sweet boys. The way you feel is completely normal and it's okay to feel that way, once you see your babies bonding it does go away and you then know you made the right choice for you and your family

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