Making the wrong choice
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I was 6 months pp when I found out I was pregnant again, the baby is now 5 months and I'm not going to lie it's the hardest thing I have ever done. I absolutely adore my children and I wish I had waited a little longer BUT watching my children together is the most amazing thing and the good definitely outweighs the bad. My partner does 16 hour days, so I do it all basically except for his days off and mornings. I find bedtime the hardest but it is slowly getting easier, when im having a hard day I just remember that this is fleeting and I need to soak up as much as I can. My second born was so hard, he had colic, constipation and reflux and it felt like things were never going to get better but obviously it does. He is now the happiest sweetest little boy and I couldn't be more blessed to have these sweet boys. The way you feel is completely normal and it's okay to feel that way, once you see your babies bonding it does go away and you then know you made the right choice for you and your family
I feel this- I used to cry on the daily out of guilt and have all these horrible dreams about my first being “forgotten”, but now that sissy is here, he is the BEST big brother- their delicate lil bond is so cute! She will pause her crying when he comes by, and he always wants to hold “Chee chee”(sissy😅), and make her feel better with a blankie or binkie. She’ll be a month on Saturday and he’ll be 19 months next Tuesday, so not exactly the same, but I’ve noticed in the beginning, he wasn’t sure about her, said “no no no” a lot more, and didn’t really know what to do with her. What I did was like you, made sure before baby came to spend intentional time with him, but also try to implement things like “helping mama”, so he had his baby doll that we did some light scenarios with (feed baby, rock baby to sleep, LOTS OF “GENTLE TOUCHES!” lol), and I also tried to implement things like him grabbing things for me, and helping in that way too. He now grabs burp cloths, will give gentle pats on
sissy’s head or help pat her back to burp her, he’ll get her a fresh diaper, stuff like that, and I’ve just tried to make sure that I include him whether in watching me do diaper changes, or what not, and like others have said, that has helped fade that guilt right away. My oldest loveees his sissy at this current stage, he asks about her as the first thing when he wakes up, and the last thing he wants when he goes to bed.:) my only hope is that their bond stays as sweet as it has been going so far.😬😅😅😅🤞
Hey I know how your feeling my little one will be a week from turning 2 when I’m due my second and when I first found out the guilt I felt was so bad. Now I’m almost 17 weeks I feel a lot better. No advice on the contact naps sorry I’m just trying to get my baby to sleep in his own room for the full night as it’ll be easier when I have a newborn. I’m lucky he sleeps most of the night in his own room just trying to make it it the full night. The first year will probably be really hard but I’m just trying to think of how nice it will for them to grow up close in age together xx