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That sounds like babying him which I would think is emasculating?

I do think you should let him do more of his own thing without criticizing at every turn, but I don't think that is tied to being a "man," just a person. If you want him to follow along with your organization scheme, make things easy to put away and label stuff. It sounds like a few little stickers could save you a lot of mental exercise.

Most psychologists and marriage counselors will tell you that the heterosexual relationships that last are the ones that are woman-led. It seems like you’re saying you should just do more work, but do it when he’s not looking. I don’t really see that “helping” any more than it will breed resentment

Isn’t like grocery shopping a woman thing tho? Why is the man doing it in the first place? ofc he’s going to suck most men don’t know how to pick out good groceries.

It’s a balance. Deff speak up mind and also let him figure things outs he’s a grown man and should do things maturely

I believe there’s a difference between criticism and critique. Critique is about sharing ways you can help them grow. Men will probably be hurt by criticism/ it will take from his masculine role if the woman just tells him he’s doing something wrong- just as it would for a woman in her feminine role. But a part of being in a relationship is educating and supporting one another. Example: My husband forgot some essentials when grocery shopping. I kindly let him know that preparing with a list or taking his time through the store will help next time. He won’t take that as me trying to knock him down. He’ll take that suggestion to do better next time. If we’re constantly worried about hurting feelings and have poor communication skills, it’s going to be really difficult to be a cooperative team. Both partners should respect one another’s critique, whether they agree or not. No need to baby each other, just assist and uplift.

In my home, the finances are my husband’s responsibility. If I feel he’s doing something wrong, I’ll kindly speak up about my perspective and he’ll respect that. That’s not me trying to criticize the way he does things. He doesn’t have to change anything based on my thoughts, but we will communicate when something feels like it could improve. Just like when I make dinner in a way he doesn’t like, he’ll respectfully let me know and hope that I make a change next time. If there’s no healthy communication, no improvements can be made. As long as there is respect, there shouldn’t be an issue. It’s our first time living, the whole purpose in being a relationship is to grow as a team.

If he can’t do the task correctly that’s a problem but it can be fixed. If he can’t take constructive criticism he’s not interested in being the best person he can be. Im not going to coddle a grown man and I could never be attracted to a man who is ok being/doing the bare minimum. Incompetence and complacency are not manly nor masculine. If a grown man isnt capable of stepping up, supporting, and taking care of himself, his gf/wife, his family why should anyone make him feel like the man that he isnt? I will encourage & support but I refuse to lie just for his own inflated self-esteem and ego.

I do think nagging and micromanaging someone will generally yield bad results. When you speak positivity into people and affirm your belief in them I do think it has a positive impact on how they act.. but like, that only works when the man actually has the want and the capacity within himself to lead and succeed already lol. Essentially I think as a wife you can definitely make the situation worse for yourself by doing those things you mentioned but there is no secret to making a man lead successfully, be masculine or be an effective partner he’s gotta just have it click within. You’ll run yourself ragged trying to pull those puppet strings from behind on a man who’s not ready or emotionally mature

The only reason most women nag is cuz the man isn’t holding up his side of the partnership… we need to stop babying men. Set the bar higher. They are full grown adults and they need to act like it. If they can’t handle accountability, then that’s their problem. But it has nothing to do with masculinity. It has to do with being a partner and communicating needs.