Sharing

Depends on the toy. There’s certain things I know each kids really loves. Like my eldest Lego’s or his super Mario plushys. I don’t make them share everything. Also if I see my youngest using say idk a fire truck for example, and his brother just takes it out of his hands without doing a trade or asking, I will step in and say something. I tell them If you want something a brother has, then offer something else. Example, you want the red fire truck, offer him a green garbage truck before you just take it.

I say if they want something someone else has they have to ask and accept the answer. If someone wants something they have, they can say "I'll let you know when I'm done" or "no" depending on what it is.

If it's their item they get to decode who gets to use it. Sharing isn't enforced in our house.

If my daughter is using or playing with something, they don't have to give it up just because another kid wants it, what the other child wants isn't more important, they can wait until my daughter is finished and have/use it after, unless she is happy to play/use it together. I also wouldn't expect another child to give something up just because my daughter wanted it. Patience and setting boundaries are also important lessons to learn.

Depends! Overall planing on teaching the concept of taking turns, instead of immediately sharing

I think it should be strongly encouraged. However, if you yourself wouldn’t wanna share at that time, why make your child do it? My niece visits and she’s welcome to grab my stuffed animals and snow globes around my house. She isn’t allowed to play with the stuffed bear that has my son’s heartbeat in it though because that sound is obviously irreplaceable. I wouldn’t expect my child to share a cherished item just as I refuse to.

I don’t come into this issue often, but a little of both. My daughter’s granny brought a little girl over with her grandma. I left the cars (2 so 1 each) out for them to take outside. Instead they tried playing with them inside, but only 1 works decent on carpet - the other barely at all. I told my daughter they could take turns on the cars or none at all. Mine didn’t seem to want to nor did the other girl. And that’s okay. Just means no cars rn. However her granny left a blanket out I said to put up bc I knew mine wouldn’t wanna share it nor did I want her to. So when I came I put it up so it wouldn’t become or continue as an issue.

So essentially if I know you wouldn’t wanna share it, then we’re not gonna put it in someone else’s face. If you might then we’ll have it out but if it isn’t going well, no one gets it rn. You don’t have to share but you don’t have to rub it in their face either. I feel it may be different if it’s like a sibling or something, but there should still be some sort of boundary or respect or alternative in place

I’m the exact same as @Lucy Sundin Also instead of saying offer something else, we might set a short timer so 1 can finish off playing then let the other have a turn If it’s someone other than his brother, I’ll typically say “let them have a turn” if my child’s had it a while, or I’ll say to the child “he’ll let you have a turn in a minute” then tell my son to finish up playing with that toy so the other child can have a go. I do teach my son other people don’t have to share their things & he shouldn’t cry for things that are not his.

If it’s his item we do the “you don’t have to share but you do have to be kind” If it’s someone else’s or like a swing/slide at the park he knows to wait his turn or share.

I will always encourage it with my child. It causes her no harm to be kind and think of others and she’ll learn how it feels when someone doesn’t want to share with her and why she should. I started getting her to share at around 6 months just holding my hand out to things and asking for them to see how she’d react. Now if I say to her can mummy have that please she places whatever it is in to my hand no fuss even her favourite things like her dummy. She also holds her hand out when she wants it back. She’s only 9 months x

I plan on teaching my son and future kids to share but to also set boundaries. Because let’s be honest some stuff you just want for yourself and that’s okay too.

For now sharing means don't take something away from the baby and if she is grabbing your thing go get her a toy of her own. Sometimes I use share to refer to playing together with the same toy/ similar toys, and sometimes I just mean everybody gets something to play with and that can be your thing or it can be someone elses thing if that person is okay with it. Hopefully that sets the groundwork for share but your stuff is still yours.

I heard somewhere that adults aren’t expected to share everything so why should kids? I’m still trying to figure out the details but in general my kids share all their toys but it’s a toy that belongs to one of them and they want to play with that toy alone then i ask that they wait for them to be finished with the toy then ask if they can play with it or I’ll ask the owner of the toy to find something cool for the other child to play with. My son is 3 and understands this pretty well. My 19 month old daughter is still very much in her “mine” phase. If we are having other kids over and it’s a special toy my 3 year old doesn’t want to share I ask him if he wants to put it away while his friends are over. Anything that’s left out is shared.

It’s really situational, because my kids play with each other toys ALL the time , I’m most likely going to tell them to take turns if it’s a fresh new toy I’ll leave it up to them to decide if they want to share it