Second baby ❤️

Hi girls, My little Darcie was born via C section on 6th Jan - 20 days early! We're in love but my God I'm finding it hard. Anyone else? My first is 20 months and I'm struggling so much with mum guilt for her, toddler tantrums while having a newborn (even more so now I think it's a bit of jealousy) and being stuck at home due to the c section! I had PPD/Anxiety with my first and I can feel a lot of those feelings/worries coming back again and I hate it, I wish so much that I didn't feel like this. I love my babies more than anything in the world and it breaks my heart that I'm constantly in survival mode, worrying about every little thing whether I'm doing things right and if I'm a good enough mum for them. It's exhausting even more so on top of the sleep deprivation lol. I think I've cried every day so far! How is everyone else getting on? Xxx

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Congratulations on Darcies arrival 🤍 I had my second baby 3 days ago & also have an almost 20 month old.. today has been ROUGH 😩 the tantrums & not listening has been hard work & on top of that my milks come in soooo 🫠🫠🫠 You’re not alone, we are both still very fresh into this new way of life lovely & we’ll get there 🤍

Congratulations! I've got a 17 month old and a 3 week old and omg the mum guilt is awful- more for my toddler at the moment...just feels like I haven't given him my all for weeks now but he's doing so well- but I can't even explain anything to him or tell him how great he's been because he doesn't really understand. I find him having 2 days at nursery helps as I know he loves it and his key worker can be really 1 on 1 with him throughout the day.. but the other days I feel like I'm not doing enough. However its temporary and I just remind myself that we've given them the best gift in a sibling so it will all be OK in the end. It will pass xx

@Lauren @Holly Thanks girls. I keep trying to tell myself that every day will be slightly easier than the last! The not listening drives me mad. I've started looking into nurseries for her aswell as I know she'd love it, and it would stop me worrying so much about not giving her all of my attention anymore! It's all gonna be OK isn't it, we will look back a year from now and wonder what all the fuss was about 🤍

I am due next week and my son will be 2 years and 2 months. I noticed there was a massive change in him after turning 2 and he's been much easier and understanding of everything. I think if he was 20 months I would struggle a lot more. Soon you'll be much more recovered from the c section, will be able to go out more, your toddler will be older and easier.

Congratulations! I think this message proves enough that you’re an amazing mom! I have also just had my second 5 days ago and eldest is 2. It’s unreal the transition and how hard it is! Such an array of emotions! All I can say is try take each day as it comes and each moment. Don’t beat yourself up for anything and ask for help when you need it. First baby I was in a happy bubble for weeks before my emotions kicked in. This time has been very different and I’ve cried due to feeling sad for my eldest or just having to constantly think what’s the best way to play something! But ultimately we don’t get it right every time but do our best and that’s all we can ask for. You sound like an incredible mom and just give yourself some grace! Sending love! ❤️

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