Frequent wakes

Yep exactly the same here. Feel like I’ve exhausted every possibility! It is frustrating though and still a bit nerve wrecking to think there could be an underlying cause to the waking. It is tough!! Xx

I have but then again I speak to others and I know we are not alone. As long as you’ve checked everything off the list. Iron supplements, magnesium, enough day sleep, not too much day sleep, not too cold, not too hot, mouth breathing etc. then I guess you’re left with a child who just needs support to fall back asleep! Have you ever had any different nights? Even a one off with three wakes rather than four?

Ps sending you love. The exhaustion is real.

Also, did you have a stressful pregnancy at all? Traumatic birth?

@Chloe it’s just good to know we’re not alone! I’m sorry you’re going through it too, it is so hard! Xx

@Kristine you’re right, I do know some others who are still going through it too, so I’m sure it is more normal than people would have you believe. I think I need to try her with iron again, but she has HATED the iron supplements I’ve tried so far. I’ve recently been trialling less night sleep but I’m not convinced it was making as much difference as I thought, and she did seem more tired through the day! To be honest, because we co sleep, I’m not aware of exactly how many wakes it is. She almost always wakes an hour and then two hours after she goes to sleep, and then she will wake overnight at least once and then in the morning before wake time that I can remember. I’d be so interested in seeing how many times it actually was if I put a camera up to record it! But in answer to your question, I can’t remember nights that were better than 4 times, maybe a few here and there.

@Kristine My birth on paper was traumatic, lost a lot of blood, went on antibiotics drip because they thought I might have an infection, but actually I felt okay about it. And I was very sick through pregnancy, can that have an effect on sleep? Sending you love too, it is so hard!

@Xanthe we always had a wake up at 45-50 min mark, now it happens when she hasn’t napped as is clearly overtired and struggles to connect those sleep cycles. I know what you mean, it’s sometimes hard to tell. We’ve had a handful better nights, but we are talking about four or five where it was three wakes so not much. Re stress in utero, it does affect them in a variety of ways that’s why I asked about your experience, mine was quite traumatic and stressful. But it’s a multifaceted thing and personality and genes play a major role in it. From what I’ve heard, toddlers that were still up 4 and more times at this age tend to sleep through/wake once at around 2.5 years mark so I’m hoping it’s coming for us soon. X

@Kristine the hour mark just seems to happen 99% of the time for us. Occasionally it hasn’t, but there doesn’t seem to be any reason why, as in her sleep has been both more and less if that makes sense and she’s still slept through that hour! I think she’ll just do it one day (hopefully haha). That’s interesting!