Narcissistic mothers..

I completely cut ties with anyone who didn’t have my best interest at heart. My mom died 2 or 3 years ago idk but I didn’t go to her services or nothing. Mind you it took years to forgive her and myself for allowing myself to get to certain points but it was so freeing! I forgave for me never for her and that’s the most important thing to remember. Forgiveness is for you to be released of the burden, not them .

@Elizabeth same! I knew I didn’t care for a relationship with her when she became vile around my son’s death and made my grief about her.. there are certain things you don’t go back from. It made me so angry I wanted to fight her but I also realised chaos is their strongest point so I let go and decided I generally didn’t even care for that either. I am so proud of you for healing through that and making the decision to do what ultimately feels right for you, I know it has been a journey and thank you for sharing your story. xx

I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. Going no contact with my narcissistic parent was one of the hardest but best things I’ve done…It took me years to understand this but LOVE is what makes a family. It’s the people who show up and do the work, and love you for you. I was really scared to go through with no contact with my parent, as it means family close to my abuser won’t talk to me as well. ❤️‍🩹But since doing that so many came into my life I never dreamed I’d get to love as family. I found out my mom has a half sister who is really kind. I found out I have a cousin who grew up in foster care that I never knew about and we both love tea and music and talk all the time now. 💗 my daughter’s birthmom is like a sister to me and we are our daughters biggest cheerleaders. And my husbands family is so loving and kind. I never knew what a loving family was like growing up, ( over half of my life!) but I’m so glad I never gave up. I’m sending you positive vibes!!

@Emily Thank you so much for sharing your story.. choosing to end that vicious cycle and tumultuous relationship has put things into perspective for me and therapy has helped me gain a lot of my confidence and hope back. It really is hard taking the first steps and admitting you were abused by your parent but I am having a daughter soon and I am not afraid to put one foot in front of the other to ensure she never has to go through the same experience. At a point in my life that dynamic consumed many aspects of my life.. I became distrustful and a very angry person but I look forward a lot to my happiness and fulfilling relationships.