As a Sahm, what do you do when your partner doesn’t support your decision to do something for yourself?
Show your support
I went back into education when my son was 1. It was just me and him, and he went to on campus nurseries and went through it all with me. It’s hard but worth it when you come out the other end. His little proud face watching me graduate is a moment I’ll cherish forever. Do what’s best for you and your baby. Maybe you could complete a professional degree that enters you straight into work at the end and so you’d be well established by the time loan repayments start. That’s what I did. Shame on your husband for not being supportive x
If payments start 6 months after graduation, then you could get a job with your new credentials and pay them back yourself :) Screw anyone that wants to hold you back from being the best you :)
Is it because of the loan or he thinks that you should never go back? Is he asking you to work because there is financial hardship?
Who’s asking him? It’s your future so don’t risk it for a man who tomorrow may or may not be there. Especially if payments start after graduation you lose nothing so go and get a degree. Sure it will be hard with the kid but your husband has a responsibility for his kid too and can maybe get you some help. If daycare or a babysitter are out of budget places like YMCA have extremely cheap daycare as long as you’re in the building and at least my YMCA has a small room with tables where people can sit and work remotely. Also states often offer grants for daycare if you qualify. Also I know a lot of moms that study, raise a kid and work remotely too and they manage to do it if your husband is concerned about money. I personally raise my kid and run an engineering business from home and we just opened a second one a month ago but we’re still at the design stage. Is it stressful-absolutely, but I’m building a future not only for my family but for myself too.
We discuss the pros and cons and then decide if it's good choice now or if should waiting till we are in a better place. We do the same for him as well.
I'm sorry, but there is not enough context for a full analysis of your situation. Is it a question of capacity or lack of desire to support your financial decision. Well, going back to school will open many doors. Are you financially stable to make that call. Is it a pause he needs until you can study, or is it he doesn't want you ever going. Is this misogynistic behavior or just a lack of funds. Also, tell us the career you wish to pursue will it be a full feeling financially beneficial for the whole family. Do u quality for government assistance. Is it a matter of lack of child care. Has he turned u down more than once when requesting support to make an individual move 🤔 😕
Hmpf. I’d say still go ahead to go to school. It opens tons of doors and ALOT of good paying jobs require it nowadays. it’s great also to show children you’ve completed college/higher schooling. I, myself are in school to better myself and family.