Need tips advice for second time

Hi everyone, I coslept with my first for over a year and honestly, it was not done very safely using the sleep seven I wasn’t aware of that at the time but we coslept because I exclusively breastfed and it was the only way I got sleep. Now, I’m due in one week with my second and a plan to cosleep because I’m afraid of sleep deprivation and I’m unsure how to go about it this time. With my first I basically slept sitting up with my boppy and my daughter slept on her side on the boppy while breastfeeding. Until she got bigger and just slept next to me. What should I do? My first also never spent a night without wearing her owlet sock and my second will be wearing it every night as well. I’m unaware of how to sleep with the newborn properly and my 2yr old doesn’t attend daycare so I really need to sleep while breastfeeding

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I’ll be in the same boat soon. I wouldn’t say I was the safest cosleeper if I just crashed out, but a normal on our way to bed, she just slept next to me too. I’d lay on my side. I’m usually naked at home so she’d just latch on. If you’re worried about her rolling I know you can make a triangle with 3 poodles for under the sheets as a barrier to the edge or distance she’d be safe moving.

What parts of cosleeping do you think you need help with or that you did with your first but shouldn’t be doing this go round?

If you have Facebook, there is a happy cosleepers group that is amazing for answering questions and explaining the safe sleep seven.

@Macdalia I’m unsure, I mean I TRIED to be as safe as possible, I was working off survival basically but I guess I feel Guilty For when I had her sleep on the boppy because I got severely shamed by some moms when they found that out. And we slept like that for a few months before her and I went to a different bed and slept without my husband for the remainder of the breastfeeding journey. This time we will only have one bed so all three of us will be in it

Ahh. I will say my daughters dad wasn’t usually in the bed with us until she got older and I trained my dogs to stay out if we were sleep. Idk. Maybe I don’t have anything to say bc I don’t see the harm of the boppy or just being in between y’all on the bed long as no one is gonna roll on her. But I’d love to say you’re not a bad shameful mom and you’re doing a good job. Like @Kaylee said I’d join groups on FB and follow pages on IG. Other than that you’ll do great and congratulations. I’ve got a group chat of fellow preggo moms if you wanna text. Some of us still got time but a couple are about to pop as well

You were doing the best you could with what you knew at the time! You're a good mother and you shouldn't beat yourself up about the past. For this time around, I'd look into chest sleeping if you're afraid your baby won't be able to lay next to you again. Sleeping on a boppy is not ideal, but there are other ways to manage a baby who needs to be held. What exactly was the issue last time? Baby couldn't eat in the side lying position? Something else? We could probably help you figure out what to do. It sounds like you know about the safe sleep seven now. Do you have questions or uncertainties about any of the parts?

There are safe ways to cosleep I would look into that. Do some research. This seems like the best choice for you and your baby based on what you’ve said. Don’t feel bad about it you’re doing great :) actually, my mother coslept with me and her other two children. It’s not that uncommon

Can I ask how did you transition yoit 1st into her own bed