I think if both parents work full time, it should obviously be 50/50
@Kapp I feel for you i do about that too but feel there's no other option he's just not willing to do more and I thought he was very modern before we had a baby. I'm jealous of 50/50 people. I'm going to strive to raise my son to believe it should be 50/50.
@Kapp same here. My partner is very helpful and I’m super grateful
@Jackie yes mine too, but let’s face it, women carry the load majority of time. My husband isn’t too great a cook so I do most meals, I am usually the one to make sure our children are ready for the day, I do most drop offs & pick ups, I do bedtime/bathing most nights, damn near all of it🤣 BUT he is very helpful making sure our home is kept tidy, does help clean up kitchen/dishes, ect. But i definitely take more initiative to make sure things are taken care of. Incog I think you need to continue expressing to your partner that he needs to step up more. It should never all fall onto one person.
He’s not home all day I am so I think that automatically raises my percentage but when he is home it’s 50/50or damn close.
I'd say it's very 50/50 in our home, my partner is very hands on.
I don’t think this is women vs men but work vs work (I mean a paying job not baby/house “work) If both partners work the same hours then I’d expect 50/50. Even if one works more I’d still expect them to be 50/50 on days off.
Before having my son I would say it should be 50/50. Now I see the difference between my husband and I (and he’s great and helps a lot) but I came to terms with the fact that we are mammals and it’s more natural for the mom to take most of the child work. Due to this, I think men should do more housework. 😊
wow i am so shocked by the results of this poll!! i put 70-80% like (while children still do need both parents) i really would think women do and should do more child care because our maternal instincts would tell us to? or at least that’s the way i am. my husband is a fantastic father but my body wouldn’t allow me to do 50-50 or even 50-60 lol i would just start doing more instinctually
The reality is that it kind of needs to be 80/80 honestly. It’s not really about women doing less but it’s definitely about men doing more
I think it really depends. Are both working? If so what amount of hours? In my house it will be disproportionate as my husband works 40 or more hours a week, while I work roughly 10-20 a month and will be able to bring baby with me to work. I think the roles and responsibilities should be roughly 50/50 but obviously each family needs to figure out what that means for them and how to divvy responsibilities
I’m in a 90/10 where my husband does most of the work while working. I go to school 2-3x a week (he watches her) n I have a business I run from home. It doesn’t take much effort tho. He works 3-4x a week 15+ hr days. (His choice) my business makes enough to where he doesn’t need to work but he has a mindset that he’s a man n he needs to provide for his family. He rarely accepts money from me for bills. I have arthritis plus more health issues (which he knew about b4 marriage) I can’t do much so he cleans, vacuums, laundry (wash, fold, hang), waters my garden, takes care of our cats, pretty much does everything except cook due to the fact he doesn’t know. I take care of our daughter when he isn’t home n when he is he feeds her 9/10 while I do her diapers. I can afford a maid however he doesn’t want 1 when “he’s perfectly capable of cleaning the house” men can do more n they should yet so many women don’t know their worth n get stuck in a relationship where they have to do everything
Id love it to be 50/50 in my home but it’s like 75/25. I don’t feel forced to do more, but i definitely do majority of everything