Potty training

My 3 year old little boy hates the toilet and potty and every time we’ve attempted potty training he has held it in and wasn’t communicating so we stopped. However, he hasn’t long been talking properly and had a speech delay. Whereas now he has caught up on his speech and has come on leaps and bounds. So last week on Wednesday I put him in pants and he had 2 poo’s in his pants, then by the 3rd poo he told me he needed to go and did the tiniest poo on the potty, he also after 3 wee’s in his pants told me he needed a wee and did a tiny dribble on the potty. We celebrated both times and he got a reward. There were then loads of accidents other than the 1 poo and wee. However, he did constantly tell me he needed a wee or a poo and sit on the potty and do nothing or once he started weeing or pooing he would tell me. Then he’d sit on the potty and not do anything. Once he was off the potty he would do it in his pants. He then went to bed in a nappy and woke up pretty much dry, then after breakfast said “I need a wee” so I showed him to his potty and he did a wee. I finally thought we were getting somewhere. Then he went to a family members on Thursday whilst I was at work and after 3 big accidents she put him back in a nappy. Then he went to nursery on Friday in a nappy and then he went into pants as he got there and when I picked him up they said he was dry for a couple of hours and then had 2 accidents and we’ve had to throw some pants away but hasn’t told them he needed to go. Is it a case of he’s comfortable with me and can tell me. Then family and nursery will take a bit more time or is he just not fully ready yet? Any advice and tips would be appreciated, thank you.

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Awww bless him it sounds like he is doing really well as he's just starting out. They do recommend trying to keep them at home for 3 or 4 days so they can get used to asking for the potty in their own environment, I bet it's the change of environments going to family/nursery. They're distracted at nursery too so always expect accidents when first starting out x

I'm having similar issue with my 3yo boy. He doesn't communicate or give any signs he needs the toilet. My nursey suggested pants then a nappy so he can feel the discomfort but not necessarily make an accident. Maybe try that for the family members and nursey? Anyway good luck mama, I feel your pain

Honestly, my sons been completely toilet trained outside of nursery for 8 months but it took 6months for him to be consistently accident free at nursery. He’s quite shy and reserved. I would get family on board and stick to the same routine outside of nursery, no nappies apart from when he’s asleep. Tell nursery everything you’re doing and they should follow suit. He’ll pick it up in time, if he’s going well outside of school I’d keep going with it. It felt like such a battle but he got there in the end. Pack tonnes of pants and bottoms, socks and spare shoes and keep at it if it’s manageable for everyone

He sounds a lot like my little boy. We managed to crack it over Christmas and here are some things we did. We said we had no more nappies and had to just wear pants/trousers. There wasn’t the option to go back. Like your little boy he did a few accidents in them, didn’t like the feeling and the started to get it. The most annoying would be when he would sit down on the potty, not do anything, and then have an accident literally 30 seconds later. But they didn’t last too long before he got used to it. He didn’t really like sitting on a potty but has loved the potty that looks more like a small toilet. Still now when he is not having accidents, he won’t use a normal potty but will use the little toilet or a bit toilet with an adapter. We gave him stickers for whenever he sat on the potty, and a sticker and a chocolate button when he actually managed to go on the potty.

We didn’t go back to nappies once they were off. He has pull ups on at night and we call them his ‘night time pants’. We haven’t had any leaks in them and it stops the confusion from going from pants to nappies. We got one of the step/seat adapters for the big toilet. When they arrived we built them together and he was SO excited to use them. He actually doesn’t want to use them now but honestly think it was a turning point from not wanting to go to being excited to go.

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