Am I ‘spoiling’ my baby

I do the same - you can’t spoil a newborn baby in fact it’s good for their development

I second what Sophie said!

@Sophie thanks for replying! Makes me feel less like I’m doing the wrong thing!

@Nikita 🫶🏻 good to know! x

Absolutely not! Ufnso my baby is super spoiled. i respond so quickly to the point that she's never even cried 🤣 only when when was born, when she was poked and proved in the drs, when she had her jabs, and when she was put on some cold scales last week. 4 times in 10 weeks shes cried 🤣

How can you spoil a baby? I’ll never understand people that believe this. I also hate when people say this to mums and try and make us question ourselves. You go and pick up your baby when you want, you’re definitely not spoiling your baby. Your being a mother a very loving and nurturing mother x

I'm a trainee therapist with an interest in child and young people mental health. This is an outdated approach that we now know actually causes harm to babies. Newborns and young babies operate on instinct and can only communicate in one way to let us know they need food/comfort/help. Leaving babies to cry is actually detrimental to them forming attachments as they start to fell abandoned and you can see in later life the psychological damage this does in later childhood and life. This doesn't mean you should feel terrible for taking a few minutes to get a bottle sorted or get a nappy changed but you can feel confident that being responsive to your babies needs is a good thing and will help form strong attachments

Thank you ladies 🫶🏻

I second all of these comments! Spoiling your baby is an old fashioned concept now and is proven to be bad for their emotional brain development x

Don’t listen to anyone who tells you your “spoiling” your baby, you can’t spoil a newborn they are only new to the world and need comforting I always lift my son & I did it with my first child he’s nearly 2 and is so independent x

You cannot spoil a baby, all psychological texts discuss the attachment theory and it’s importance Ignore those who say otherwise. Boomers are classic culprits for this way of thinking

I got told I picked my first baby up ‘too much’ and that she was ‘spoiled’ just because I didn’t ignore her when she was upset. She’s now 19 months and I’m lucky if I get a hug off her without her running away as she’s too busy playing with her toys 🤣 it doesn’t last long so get all the hugs in while you can. My baby is 8 weeks old and I know how fast the time goes so il hold him all day if I have to 🤣

The spoiling a baby thing has been disproven and is an archaic method of thinking. You literally can’t spoil a baby. Infants need attention and nurturing to grow emotionally, physically and intellectually. From NHS/Harvard Centre: research shows when you cuddle and play with your baby, the more secure they’ll feel, and the more independent they’ll become. This is because they will feel confident that you will be there for them if they need you, so they do not feel the need to hold on tightly to you. Serve and return interactions—responsive, back-and-forth exchanges between a young child and a caring adult—play a key role in shaping brain architecture. These interactions form a critical part of a child’s social environment and are crucial for early development. They support development of early language and social skills that serve as a foundation for more complex, high-level cognitive abilities that form later in life.