Hot take: husband going out
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If he does it alot then I wouldn't take his "I'll be back at this time" word for it. Just tell him to have a good night and see you when you get in. Enjoy the peace. As for them hanging out at a certain time, maybe some of them work during the day or have other commitments
My hubs hangs out with his buddies at like 4 or 5pm every other week. I know it's not entirely his doing with the timing though. So that's whatever. it's a few hours for a work out.. he always says it'll be an hour and it turns into more. He rekindled this friendship shortly after the babes was born. I thought it was weird timing. I, myself, haven't figured out navigating it... like I understand that he needs to have a life too.. not just work, me and babes.. I struggle with guilt saying like "hey, no, it's my turn to have your attention... Not friend time." If he was late though, id call him on it. That's not cool.. BUT maybe that means he needs more than a monthly hang with the guys.
my partner works during the day so he hangs with his friends in the evening but he doesn’t go out and drink and stuff so its never a late night and he always tells me when he’s getting ready to leave and when he’s on his way home. i would be very upset if he stayed out late and even more so if he told me a time and then changed it every time. not cool. its one thing to go out and have fun but be respectful and truthful
Mine man is a loner but I’d definitely would look at him side ways if he was out late
I think it’s kinda weird after a certain age when you got a family especially, like we’re only 25/26 but we got toddlers and barely spend time together just come home and hangout/let’s go sleep😂 if you’re fine and just want him to be real, don’t expect him that time and tell him not to even beat around the bush he knows he’s always not home at that time
Mine doesn’t go out much, but I don’t mind what time he comes home. As long as he lets me know that he is safe
my husband is a nerd he'll literally be at a friends house playing video games or board games so no drinking or drugs involved lol he's just so competitive he wants to keep going, he even sends me pictures of his friends playing 😂 for me it's just the coming home at a specific time like just stick to it please 🙄 and if i text him to come back after he asked for more time he'll come back but it's just the purpose of it like don't ask u already know the answer!! then sometimes i'll feel guilty for saying no
I think going out in the evening is normal because during the day they are working and spending time with their kids/family. We don’t give expected times, just updates during, like “made it, now going here, heading home now” Asking for permission like kids to go or stay later is crazy to me
I didn't give my husband a time limit because he rarely ever goes out and when he does, I want him to just have fun
My partner very rarely goes out but when he does he usually goes to raves so is out until 5-6am 🙈 I don’t ever ask for a time he will be back at. The only things I ask is for him is to drop me a text every now and then to let me know he’s still alive and if we’re awake by the time he gets home then go straight to bed so the kids don’t see him drunk 🙈
He’s grown, he doesn’t need any rules 😂 he only goes out once or twice a month so just let him be!
i ask for a time to come home cause if i don't he comes back at like 3am and i don't stand for that, if you have kids and a family you should be back at a decent time
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My husband and I have the same groups of friends so this doesn’t usually happen to me bc we both go out late. Sometimes he wants to hang out with just our guy friends or his band but I don’t care how late he stays out as long as he responds to my texts so I know he’s alive. My husband doesn’t go out much either (like once a month maybe) and has a stressful job so I think he deserves to have fun for as long as he wants to. Plus I know he wants the same for me when I go out
Even if mine did this, I’d say stop giving me a concrete time before you leave, tell me you won’t be back before the earliest time you might come home, and update me on when you are thinking about leaving. telling me you’ll be home at a specific time and then at that time, everytime, continuously begging for more time would not fly with me.