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Gambling is a very serious problem. Unless he’s willing to hand over all finances to you, then it’s just likely he’ll fall back into it. My friend had to sell her home to pay her husband’s debts. Then she finds out years later that he’s gambling again and used clients deposits to try and “get himself out of it”. She’s bailed him out again. This seriously impacts your family’s situation. If you have evidence, you need to confront him with it, as long as it’s safe for you to do so. The only fans thing, I don’t know. I kinda think men are just perverts. Generalising here, not all men are. But paying for it? Yeah I’d be upset.

If this is a boundary in your relationship that has been disrespected then yes, you have every right to be annoyed and to consider leaving. It’s a very personal thing though. For some, it is not a boundary and is seen as ethical pornography and so being annoyed and considering leaving would be an overreaction as there would be no disrespect.

I would definitely leave if my partner was doing this

I would leave.

@Agata same.

I would be upset with the onlyfans because why is he wasting money on that when he can literally watch it for free… especially knowing that he’s got a gambling problem and clearly money isn’t able to just be thrown around in this case.

I’d leave. Only fans is just cheating.

I’d leave. Bye! ✌🏾 paying for only fans and having a gambling problem, throwing away the little money you do have.

yes i would leave

I’d Leave. Save yourself and your baby. Be hard but better for you both in long run while he tries to sort himself out.. if he tries to. I am assuming you aren’t married so have no financial ties with each other ie not responsible for paying his debts. Get out now while you can.

Fuck him off the tramp looking at other women naked and paying for it behind your back knowing you had his baby 👶 absolutely get rid of him no question about that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I had a similar situation w the gambling and watching cam girls, he freaked out when I asked to look at his bank statements to prove he hadn’t paid for it but was adamant he didn’t, that was last month and we’ve been going really downhill since then, I can’t trust him, I feel like he’s not attracted to me, the vibes are completely off and tbh I’m considering leaving him, dealt with so much of this rubbish I’m just over it now tbh

We are very open about these things with my partner. I wouldn't leave him because of OnlyFans, i think honesty is a bigger problem here. We went through a very rough 1 year when my son was born and it all came down to us talking about things. Every guy is looking at porn and sexy girls and onlyfans, and i always find it surprising that everyone jumps and says 'leave him'. Dont give up on each other yet, it has nothing to do with the way you look, guys will always look. Please talk to each other and be honest. Good luck!

I would protect my money from this person immediately. If you haven’t married, don’t. If he can’t make good decisions for himself for his baby, he certainly will not for you. Be kind to yourself about your body. His problems are not because you have a postpartum figure. They are HIS problems.

If my partner did this I would leave, wouldn't be able to stay with them if they are accessing only fans. I know what you mean about your body I absolutely hate mine after having my little boy 😞 xx

The only fans is kinda ok, but the gambling and hiding it is really bad. You shouldn't have to pay off the debts for his bad decisions