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I personally have no problem with my partner watching porn etc, but paying for specific content/women is where I draw the line! I would absolutely be pissed. Either way, if he’s been paying or not, if you’ve discussed boundaries around porn etc and he has crossed them then you have every right to feel however you feel! I wouldn’t equate this to how he feels about you though! You have every right to be upset if he is paying for content etc, but do not take that to mean that you are not good enough or not looking absolutely amazing, as it is not related at all! People don’t watch porn as they think their partners are not good enough, they watch it to get some satisfaction in that moment and be done with it. If he is not making an effort to have sex with you but masterbating a lot etc, then that is a separate issue, but still not because you are not enough it is a him issue! I would just speak to him about it for sure! See what he says. Depends on how you’d feel if he says he’ll stop?❤️

It’s a bit of a tough one! Because I feel like most people watch porn and so is it so different really? But then - some people prefer to be in the know if their partners are or they like to do it together as they have a more open and honest approach and it’s like a shared practice and part of their sex life practice And some people sort of just assume their partners do but don’t want to “know” or acknowledge it openly you know? So whilst I understand your feelings it is very upsetting especially when you’re still so early in your postpartum journey, it’s a difficult one because I’m not sure where you fall on the spectrum in relation to the above and also how you’ve approached intimacy throughout pregnancy and then postpartum - is it just pent up sexual tension is it more Wishing you peace of mind sorry I wasn’t of much help, just trying to offer another view in case it better puts things in perspective x

I would feel a way too seeing how he’s PAYING to see this content.. I would ask him about it for sure. It’s almost like prostitution even though it’s digital but why is he going such a drastic route when there’s free pornographic entertainment everywhere? What type of things is he looking up on only fans?

Yeah I would definitely not be okay with this. I’m so sorry I know that’s very hard 😔

Well I would try to remember that it has nothing to do with him not being attracted to you. If it helps any, the kind of girls my husband used to choose to have sex with were the slutty trashy kind. I know, sounds bad but that’s actually what he say turns him on… but not w/ me. He doesn’t want me to act slutty or trashy and the reason he’s liked me since we were kids is because I was kinda the girl who only had one partner or whatever. So he probably watches a completely different type of porn than what we do. And I’m the one who thinks our sex is vanilla. But idk I’m rambling now. The point is, I’m sure he thinks your totally hot and the perfect women to have children with and marry. But maybe he just wants to jack off to something different once in awhile. That being said, I would be upset too. It makes me sick when I think about my partner getting off to other women and I would NEVER want to see what he looks at in private. So I don’t look. Or at least I usually don’t. But… cont.

I would definitely have a conversation with him if this was my situation and say interacting with women and PAYING women for content online is taking it too far. Watch porn hub or whatever but don’t let me fricking see it, delete that shit, and do not spend our families money on fucking porn.

@LeKenya I waited to read the other comments until after I was done and this is exactly my thoughts. Not only is PAYING for it totally out of line but usually you’re getting custom tailored videos. Unless it was like a $5 subscription. But if there’s a bunch of charges he could be interacting with the women.

I feel if it’s anything beyond porn is considered cheating in my eyes. Just know that it isn’t you don’t put yourself down be proud of yourself that you created a human being and did one of the hardest things any human can do. Talk to your husband and have open communication and let him know how this hurts you in many ways unimaginable. Let him know how bad this affects you at a such a vulnerable time and how that makes you feel betrayed. Be firm that you are not okay with this and I’m sure he will come to his senses. Sometimes men go down a rabbit hole when a huge change happens in their life such as being responsible of an extra human being or other stress that he doesn’t talk bout with you to not stress you out. When men are going through such strong emotions they find a different escape a supernatural one at times it’s drugs or excessive porn addiction that they don’t realize they are in until it’s pointed out. I believe you and your husband can get through this difficult time.

Nah I’d be fuming, porn is also wrong imo

I’m the type to make an account my damn self 🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️ start making money but that’s jus me. The question is do they look like you, and are doing things you wouldn’t do?? Most of the time porn is very personal … n people don’t share those kinda kinks due to fear of embarrassment given your 4 months post partum i get it on both sides. You’re still healing and coming to terms with your body. Have a conversation with him about it- if he’s willing to pay for it 👀 hell I’d have him paying me cuz wym