Not holding baby properly
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And spina bifida, the condition you’ve screenshotted, is to do with baby’s development in the womb, a neural tube defect. Of course he could absolutely harm baby if he’s not holding him properly, but you don’t need to be concerned about spina bifida specifically.
Second everything Chloe has said!
It does sound a little like you’re perhaps very anxious around your new baby , which is totally normal!! It’s what post partum does to you, it’s your job to protect your baby, but maybe you’re being over anxious. Babies are resilient and strong, and once you have more than one you just cannot hold the new baby the prefect way all the time, I had a 2 yo and a new baby, my god if this were the case my now 8m old would be severely disabled, there’s only so much you can do with one hand per child and a demanding toddler, try to look at what he is doing again and assess if it’s definitely unsafe or if your brain has just gone into over protective mode around your precious new baby. If it’s genuinely unsafe then seek further help around that but maybe it’s postpartum anxiety too and if that’s the case there’s loads of support available around that too, should you need it. Sending love to you mama
Additionally chiropractic / Osteo for babies if they’re unsettled can be really beneficial, I took both of mine and highly rate it. So perhaps this would be a good thing to do, any they can be very reassuring, my chiropractor was brilliant in telling me how strong and robust babies really are x
Babies are very resilient as Philippa said! Again I agree, assess what he is doing and if baby is actually in pain or looks uncomfy or whatever? As I know when I used to pass my kids to people I'd pass them with my hand on their head/neck and one on the bum not on their back, not sure how I used to swop arms tbh as its just what I used to do so 🤷♀️ but both mine are 3 and 5 and believe me have absolutely no issues what so ever! And I'm 99% sure spina bifita is just for when they are developing inside the woman which is why we are supposed to take folic acid for the first 12 weeks if memory serves me correct 🤔 baby getting distracted is normal when someone enters the room when feeding my kids did it when I was feeding, as soon as someone walked in they fussed which is frustrating but they are nosey and want to know what's going on 😂 you are in protective mama phase totally understand it honestly I think nearly every mother goes through it... But again when you have more than one you do things differently
And realise you don't have be to sooo cautious, have you ever seen how some of the health team handle kids! Honestly I was shocked after my first like how are you being so rough (what looked to me as being rough) 😂
Your baby’s fine
Google AI overview is almost always incorrect. Try to click on the little links to do more in depth research for your own peace of mind. Again don't trust the AI overview, it gives almost hilarious results sometimes!
Babies don't "develop" Spina bifida. It is a birth defect, so if they have it, they will have it from birth. Trust me, I know, because I have Spina bifida.
I agree with what everyone is saying, and think that maybe you need to allow yourself time to breathe a little. Threatening to report your husband is huge, of course if he’s really harming the baby then please by all means report him and leave him, no one should ever harm a child. But, I think there’s a lot of anxiety involved because deep inside you know if your baby was really in harms way, you wouldn’t be there with your husband. It’s okay to have anxiety, I had it so much with my baby (11 weeks now), which I didn’t get with my first. But, maybe try consulting with your baby’s pediatrician together and bring up the way he’s holding him and see if it’s a safe hold.
Thank you everyone for your replies and reassurance 🙏 ❤️
Sorry, when you say by the neck, what exactly do you mean? Like baby’s neck cradled into his hand/ supported around the neck, but resting on his arm or legs etc whilst he switches, or like, held out away from the body and baby dangling, only being held by the neck? I see your baby is a few weeks old still, it’s normal for them to be restless and tearful, but if in particular discomfort feeding, that could be an underlying issue like reflux for example. It’s not an immediate indication of a serious problem. That said, if your partner cannot hold your baby in a safe way, of course you’re right to be worried!