MIL force feeding my baby.

I think this might have to be one of the those times where you pick your battles. Either grandma doesn't feed her at all or you let some of these things go. Too much fruit isn't really an issue but I definitely understand the butter. It's unhealthy fat and that doesn't add much nutritionally. Maybe make a list of approved foods and how much to serve so she can't pretend like she doesn't know what you want. This is also an opportunity to include any foods that are dangerous/unwanted.

You should explain to her that a lot of butter=high cholesterol. No one should be ingesting a lot of butter, even raw pieces especially for a kid that already has butter in food. Too much is not good for them and I know you know it but she needs to know it. She also needs to respect your boundaries. It’s so weird she’s decided to give him garlic all the time. Does he like it though is that why? Not saying she should if you’ve said no but I feel like perhaps she’s seen you do it and if he’s had a positive reaction she thinks it’s okay to give it to him to get that positive reaction if that makes sense? If not a positive reaction then that’s even weirder. I’d just tell her the next time you cross a boundary and don’t respect us as parents and follow our advice then you won’t be allowed round our child anymore. If she doesn’t listen then you will separate yourself and your child from her. I agree with Lacey, too much fruit isn’t as bad as too much butter because at least fruit is healthy

But too much of anything can be bad for you so I’d still stick to your guns. If she wants to feed him, she sticks to the no gos and the things you want him to eat and if she doesn’t then don’t give her an opportunity to feed him meaning either supervise and do it yourself or don’t have him around her. That’s the only way it’ll really change or you could create a food diary of what he eats and give it to her. Tell her she needs to stick to it

Garlic- she gave him for the first time infront of me to check his reaction. He didn’t react at all and kept eating it. But that can cause a lot of acidity and should not be given. Orange- we used to give him in the evening when my husband was home. And it used to be our bonding time. She saw that and since then makes sure to give him before I can offer him. Plus with his ongoing cough I don’t want him to have orange because it can irritate his throat more.

Well then for the garlic I’d say she was giving it because it’s no reaction. And I agree that it’s bad. But also you fed it him knowing it can cause acidity and in your words should not be given. Kindly I’d suggest that if you want other people to go by what you say, you shouldn’t give him garlic then because that’s setting that example. It doesn’t change the fact she shouldn’t have do it, but you as a parent are also an example. And in your post you didn’t say she gave it to him, you said “we” gave it. If it’s typo then my bad. Once your son’s cough goes, why not share orange bonding? There are a lot of things out there that you guys will still bond over when your MIL isn’t there. If it was me I wouldn’t take it personally I’d only take it personally if she gave it whilst he had a cough like how you’re feeling because that is understandable. Like I said it’s your choice but if she hasn’t been listening so far then she’s not going to listen in future unless you provide a solution or

Cut contact

@Dionne she gave him and I was standing next to her. It was just to see his reaction just as we have those videos were babies try lemon for the first time. But that does not mean she should be giving every single day when told not to. She does that to take control. My husband has told her not to, even my FIL reminded her not to give STILL she gave him

Did you read the part where I said, in your post it said “we gave it” referring to “once, we playfully gave him a tiny piece of garlic to see his reaction, but now she gives him raw garlic everyday” so you assuming you and your husband gave your son garlic and she saw it and now is doing it. That was your words and I said if that was a typo then my bad, but you have not said it was a typo. My point is, if you want something from someone, you set that example. You know feeding him garlic can be bad for him which is why you don’t want your MIL doing it, so why do it in the first place? I get all of the other things you’ve said, but if you’re giving advice to other people including your MIL that’s the one thing you need to do is also take your own advice because it is going to then come off as an attack on her. She saw you doing it and she wanted to do it, if she knows it’s wrong to give him that because she knows garlic can be acidic then she is wrong for giving it. And yes she

Shouldn’t give him garlic without consulting with you both. That’s also wrong on her part. If she is uneducated on it however, and she’s seen you feeding your son garlic, she probably doesn’t see anything wrong with it. That’s what you need to talk about unless you already have. Set the example you want others to go by. Then if she repeatedly does it, that’s when you make the decision on what to do about her being around your child

@Dionne Yes I read your confusion and I have replied above. She gave him to see the reaction and I was standing next to her. Just to see the reaction. Raw Garlic is not food and should not be given as “food” daily and we made that very clear the next time. It was just to see the baby’s reaction. She’s very well educated and knows the harm it can cause.

Just tell her no, and pick your baby up. Put your foot down.

@Emily she does that when I’m not around 😭 If I have gone to take a shower, or talking to the doc on a phone call, she’s after my nanny. I’m so tired!!

Butter is only good for you if it’s grass fed