Help please

Hi! First of all i send you lots of hugs you are doing it great!!! You’re the best mom your son could’ve ever ask for, don’t even doubt it!!! Have you spoken to his therapist? Maybe she could guide you more, in my experience I’ve been doing zeolite detox for heavy metals, and also I avoid all junk food (at least I try) I watch lots of YouTube videos of making food with veggies but hidden so they won’t notice (I have twins on the spectrum) I think getting rid of the metals on their body (I took them to take the blood exam for that) and be more selective with their foods is making a huge difference, I hope this helps you. You can message me anytime if you want. 💛 I’m sorry if my English is not perfect, English is my second language

Similar stage but older babies. My now 4 year old boy who is autistic can't stand when his 9 months old brother cry and he is extremely jealous.

You’re doing great, feel free to message me if you’d like to talk

My 2 year old is still in the process of being diagnosed but he has similar issues. We quickly figured out that there really is no way to stop it, it’s better to let him adjust to it over time. His doctor had told us not to interfere when he is having meltdown’s cause it could cause him to get more overwhelmed. He tends to smack himself or more recently bite himself when he gets overwhelmed now. The only time we interfere is when he starts severely hurting himself or lashing out at his sister or others around him. We also look for signs like increased hand flapping, eye ticks, and fidgeting to try to divert his attention before the meltdowns start. We use toys, tv, snacks, etc..

My daughter is slightly older than your son, but had similar issues when we brought her little sister home last year. We got her a blackout tent and put some of her favorite toys in it - when she'd get overwhelmed she'd retreat into it until she was able to calm down. If she got too overstimulated, we'd let her hang out in her room until she was ready to come out. It does get better though. Now when her little sister cries, she goes and finds the nearest adult and guides us to take her away. 😂 It's a hard transition, but you're doing great. 🩷

@Tiffany this!!! Yes, that doctor is absolutely right!

Hi! Actual autistic person here. Meltdowns are when we are overstimulated to the point of not being able to regulate ourselves back to a better headspace. The best idea isn't as much about distractions unless they are distractions that we normally enjoy in general . Find what calms us, give us a seperate space to be if needed. Noise cancelling headphones, maybe try slowly acclimating him to them when he's not needing them in the moment so that he's okay with them. We will probably try that with our son who doesn't like things on his head either ( not officially diagnosed, but I suspect he is)

@Tiffany let him adjust to things but also find safer outlets and find things that work through websites like therapy shoppe .... For example ( ot shoppe of things to help with various things for people on the autism spectrum.... Weighted lap pads, body sleeves, things we can fidget with, chewelry for people with oral fixations.... Etcetera)

OP, give him lots of hugs lots of support give him attention when you can . Little brother is very new it's a big change for him as well as a lot of noise for him.

@Tosha my son also tends to run into his play tent when he is overwhelmed! Or he will get in bed and under a big cushy comforter. Sometimes he also runs to the farthest room in the house and shuts the door behind him. I love the play tent as a space to go when overwhelmed though.

Thank you everyone for the advice. I really appreciate it ♥️