I need to vent/long post

I'm 24. Gen z. I've got a 2 year old toddler and am pregnant and due in September with my second. I'm married, have a job, have a decent apartment, and overall am doing ok. When I was pregnant with my 1st I worked at a daycare. At this daycare I told my boss I was pregnant and she told me not to clean the bathrooms due to the harsh chemicals. I also was showing hella early signs of pre-eclampsia so I was sitting down more often. My coworkers( 3 gen z and 1 millennial) were god awful to me. They never congratulated me. I don't expect any congratulations but it just felt weird. Like normally when someone tells you good news the default response is "omg congrats!" Or some sort. Nope. Not for me, I got "wow" with the worst attitude ever. Later on they apparently complained to my boss that I was sitting down too much and not engaging with the kids bc I was sitting down... I was the head teacher of the school age 5-9 kids and I taught them just fine. I remember telling one of my coworkers "I'm pregnant so that's why I haven't been cleaning the bathrooms. Cause the harsh chemicals" Turns out that coworker went to my boss and said "Holly said she WAS NOT going to clean the bathrooms" I ended up leaving that job true to unfair treatment. I couldn't handle it. Now I'm 24 pregnant with my second. I'm about 6 weeks along and I work at a pet hotel. It's a glorified janitor job with the perks of hanging out with dogs. There is a cat room included. It's completely separated from everything. I have a drs note stating to stay away from the cats due to the parasite toxoplasma commonly found in cat feces. It can cause horrific things to a fetus. I sent my drs note to both of my managers. 1 is the general manager and the other is the assistant manager. I went into work today and my coworker(gen z) was telling me something about the cats. I said "ok but I'm not going in the room anyway. I'm pregnant and can't be around the cats". I preceded to tell her about Toxoplasmosis. Yall this girl rolled her eyes and and was like "wow I didn't know about that" talking about the toxoplasma. She didn't congratulate me or anything. Again that's fine but it still feels weird. Anyhoo, the girl leaves and I shit you not not 10 minutes later I get a nasty message from the assistant manager telling me about how I'm still expected to feed the cats and it's not ok to tell a staff member I'm not going into the cat room. I don't even know what to do with this job anymore. It's getting so unbelievably frustrating and my whole fucking "team" feels like two-faced backstabbing bitches. I also brought up the generations bc it feels like every time I work with gen z and young millennials while pregnant I get constant negativity. But when I work with elder millennials I get more positive vibes.
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I experienced something similar working in daycare as a trainee worst experience of my life and I tried to finish the training in a school setting but recently stopped as it feels very toxic atmosphere of a job. There's good ones but I always find the bad ones

I worked as a veterinary technician for 10 years. You can handle cats and feed them - it's just their feces you have to be cautious with. I had a coworker that was pregnant and was the kennel tech, she would wear gloves when handling litter boxes and wash her hands thoroughly afterwards. Her baby was fine. I also had a cat when I was pregnant with my first and would be extra careful when dealing with her litter box and wash my hands thoroughly afterwards. My baby was fine. As for your coworkers, management should really be supporting you and the recommendations of your doctor, not creating more problems. You may need to have a meeting with management to discuss expectations and limitations with the pregnancy so everyone is on the same page. Get anything agreed to in writing.

You can be around the cats. I have cats and my husband brought home a kitten when I was 6 months pregnant. I just didn't clean litter boxes.

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