Nursery settling please help 🙏

Im also a SAHM, i have never done nursery and don’t think i ever will I’m going to wait until preschool age to return back to work, I don’t personally think its for us, my baby is also a velcro baby and doesn’t settle with anyone else not even dad. i don’t think it would be good for me or her to endure the drop off and upset when we are perfectly happy with each other each day.I designate time during the day for learning and sensory play, we go to baby groups 1/2 a week and we go to soft plays and swimming too so i do everything the nursery would do and she does socialise around babies, i think everyone has an opinion on how you should do certain things but end of the day its your baby and should also be your choice, if you don’t think its for you ignore everyone else no matter who it is as whats right for you will be right for baby, happy mummy happy baby, its never easy trying to please everyone as sometimes its easier for them but i do think you need to fight for what you want too😀

I guess the argument for nursery is that children have to leave us at some point. Better to ease them in younger than wait until school age which will then be full on and five days a week. It’s good for children to learn to be around others- not just their parents. But I’m very very pro nursery so each to their own.

I can imagine your pain. I tear up thinking about it and I actually love my job so it's necessary. How long has he been going? Potentially you could take him out for a few months then try again in a different nursery? Maybe he didn't click with his key worker

It’s obviously not necessary but it can be fantastic for their social development. In the first year they attend nursery, they will get sick all the time. That’s nothing unusual, it either happens now at nursery or when they start school. Babies develop social anxiety from their mothers between 9 - 18 months, but a few minute after you’ve gone they usually adapt pretty quickly. However, it might not be the right setting for them. I went for a childminder over a nursery as to me, it’s a more homely environment. I don’t have any friends with little ones who went back to work after maternity leave, but we can all see a difference in our children. My son talked quicker than my friends children, he’s very outgoing and gets into something new. This isn’t all children, but I could definitely see a difference with mine and my friends. I’d advise a childminder as a nursery might be a bit overwhelming but there are definitely pros and cons to both.

My little one goes to nursery 2 days a week, but it took about 4 weeks for her to settle as we also had tears at drop off and pick up. Once she settled, she was absolutely fine. She is happy now when I drop her off and collect her. It's a hard transition, so you have to do what you think is right for you and the baby.

Hey Kamilia, what I could advise to you is that don’t send your son to nursery if you don’t have to, he can develop anxiety. You are his mom and you know the best time of when he is ready, I experienced the same thing with my daughter, regardless of what my partner and his family believed, I said NO my daughter isn’t ready, do the same!

@Lauren just jumping in .. it would be great to know some ideas for the learning and sensory play you do ? X

I’m not a sahm, i work two days a week and my daughter attends nursery on them two days. I have to say up until the past two weeks it has been rough. She started in July 24 and honestly would scream every single time i dropped her off. Some days were better than others but honestly the guilt i felt is indescribable. I knew she was okay after drop off as they’d send me a picture of her playing and smiling etc. then this morning she ran straight to her key worker and gave her the biggest cuddle and waved bye to me and she was absolutely fine. She has made so much progress being in nursery too. Its so tough and ultimately its up to you whether you continue letting your little one go but it can take time for them to adjust x