New mum friend doing things ‘wrong’ please give your advise….

Why do you feel like you have to distance yourself from her? You can still be friends, if she’s doing things that way that’s her responsibility and choice, I wouldn’t let it get in the way of a nice friendship :) you can offer your advice, but if she doesn’t take it that’s on her :) x

I think if you've mentioned it, and she doesn't want to take the advice just leave her to do things her own way. As long as she doesn't do it to your own kid and respects boundaries that way, I'd say you can still be friends :)

@Sammy I don’t really know, I guess I just feel really uncomfortable watching her do things that could be harmful to her baby and having such a careless approach to her little ones well being… she was putting her in the car seat the other day in a thick pram suit so I said how unsafe it was and he response was ‘ahh she’ll be alright, I can’t be arsed to take her out of it!’ I think it’s her couldn’t care less approach to something that is incredibly important that makes me feel like I should withdraw from the friendship

Ah okay I see what you mean, if it’s making you uncomfortable or you feel really strongly about certain things that she is doing then it may be best to withdraw from her rather than it become a big argument or issue further down the line. Is it stuff that’s bad enough for you to warrant feeling like reporting her? Because if she’s doing other things that are extremely dangerous you may want to consider raising it to someone. X

I don't think I could be friends with someone that made me that uncomfortable. Of course we all have different ideas about parenting but sounds like the stuff she is doing is just downright dangerous. I read a story in the news a few weeks ago about a baby that died from being too low in a sling.

@Tanya I couldn’t be friends with someone like that either.. if you aren’t willing to do basic things regarding safety then I dunno why she bothered having a baby 🤷🏼‍♀️ harsh but true

@Sammy it’s all good and well saying all of this but imagine if something happened to the baby due to her poor parenting (like not having a safe clear crib for the baby to sleep in for a start!!) I personally couldn’t be friends with someone like that it’s just being naive thinking it could never happen to them. X

I would without a doubt, be as firm as can be. She is literally by the sounds of it doing a shit job at keeping her baby safe, and if you’ve told her and she isn’t listening then honestly I couldn’t look at her without getting upset and angry for that poor baby!

I would also report her, because there’s one thing not knowing how to keep your baby safe even though it’s everywhere for you to read up on, but to just plain ignore it she doesn’t deserve to be a parent simple as that. Everyone does things differently but basic safety rules are a given x

@Tanya I used that story as a reference when I said her sling position was wrong and she just kind of batted me off. I’m glad you all seem to agree, I didn’t know whether I was being silly and over dramatic but I can’t bare her purposeful ignorance. I think I’m going to have a stern conversation and go from there, I know it’s not my responsibility but I couldn’t live with myself if I didn’t say something and something tragic happened… thanks for the discussion ladies xx

@Amy yeah, if you see my comment after, I agree. :) x