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Hear me out, send him a text saying hey I’m embarrassed to speak to you about this so I wrote within the group of women needing perspective. Can you read it (without judgement) and give me your insight? - then screenshot this and send it to him. I did that to my now fiancé about not being able to take all of him during sex, it made me feel like I couldn’t please him which caused major insecurity (I even struggled to get wet). He welcomed my unfiltered feelings about it and actually confessed that he himself was scared He wasn’t gonna be able to please me because it was too big and causing me pain. Our relationship grew so much from getting over that barrier and sex 1000% got better and without pain. Give it a shot mama. That man loves you more than your deepest insecurities. Chances are he knows you’re self conscious about it but waiting on you to feel comfortable enough to talk about it.
Guys really don’t care! Have y’all only been with each other? If not, I’m sure both of you know that everyone looks different even people on porn. He’ll probably be just as self conscious having to start giving oral after potentially never having done it or at least not having done it in 15 years. But I agree, talk to him about and if it makes you feel more comfortable or have to work your way into it, start with the lights off.
Have a conversation. Explain your concerns. We all have body hang ups but I would hope if you’ve been together 15 years, he will be understanding and supportive.
A little different here, I was younger and my now-husband was only my 2nd partner, he refused to tell me his # of notches on the bed post and judging by his confession to change his phone number within months of meeting me, I decided I'd never ask him again because I wouldn't like the answer. I promise that once you let go and give in to how much he loves you, it gets much better. The best sex that I have is when we are both confident and actually even with the lights on. Yes, bodies change with time also - but if you're both willing to try, and maybe even have a little laugh about it, it's worth it. 🤍
Best thing you can do is explain this and tell him how you feel. He really won’t judge or even see you how you see yourself I think this will lead to deeper intimacy