Who gets oral?

Am I the only one not getting oral from my husband?? He used to love it, then I got pregnant and he said I “tasted” different. Apparently so different that it’s awful, and he never does it anymore. I’ve tried talking about it, and I even asked if he’d be willing to use flavored lube, but he said he doesn’t like the idea of lube in his mouth. He’s mentioned trying again recently, but he never does. Other than that our sex life is pretty great, I’m just so frustrated. I was so insecure when he was willing to do it, I almost always turned him down. Now it’s practically the only thing I want. Uggghhh… just want to know I’m not alone

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I know some lesbians use dental dams as means of steering clear of STIs, would one of those be worth thinking about? They're not the sexiest things in the world, but might be a good compromise.

@Courtney I’ve thought about it for sure. I’m allergic to latex, so I feel like I’ve been using that as an excuse not to get them even though I’m sure there’s latex free ones. I’m starting to think that’s my only option. If anything maybe that’ll push my husband to actually try instead of not really caring about it because he sees I’m serious about it 🤷‍♀️

I feel you, the same here. So frustrating

I don’t and I really miss it!

My husband doesnt do any of nothing with me … I’m just slithering away

My husband stopped for the longest time and then only rarely did it. I asked him a few weeks ago If he likes going down on me and why if he does i rarely get it because i miss nutting on his face.

I’m just generally not even interested in sex since having my twins, I think of that extra hour I won’t get back of sleep 😂😂

My OH can't understand why some men hate it so much, as he is very much the opposite 😅.

I've never cared for it but I heard drinking lots of water and eating pineapple can make you sweeter, no idea if that is true but if you like pineapple it's worth a shot

@Rebecca this doesn’t help me feel better at all lol

@Anna that’s a great point, I’ve recently been drinking nothing but water, so maybe it’s at least a little better. I should definitely try pineapple too. It wouldn’t hurt 🤷‍♀️

Maybe you go talk to gp about it see what gp could suggest to hopefully get back what you desire.

I don't get any anymore. He says he loves it but stopped doing it. Recently he keeps saying he'll do it but doesn't. When I bring it up he wants me to shave. I'm pregnant and get lightheaded trying to shave there. But anyway he keeps wanting me to give him oral. I said no he has to shave first. He's not happy about it, I don't actually need him to shave it but just want him to know how I feel. It still hasn't changed anything I haven't gotten any in months.

@Heaven my husband said it started being “bad” when I was pregnant. It took him over a year to finally tell me what the problem was, and the entire time I didn’t get any. I stopped giving him any head, and I told him “I’m not giving you any because I’m not getting any” he got upset and said “I didn’t realize it was transactional” and I said “it’s not, but it’s not fair” I rarely give him head now.

@Madeline I thought about that, but everything is completely normal. I’ve never had any issues personally. No weird smell, nothing. And I would always shower every day, and before we had sex, so it’s not hygiene either. I’m pretty sure it’s just hormones 🫠