Just have to vent somewhere

It sounds like you've been through a lot with your so called friends, and it's understandable that you're feeling concerned about the recent changes in your relationship. You did the right thing by correcting them when they referred to your child's autism as a sickness. It's crucial to continue educating them about autism and how they can support your child. If you feel comfortable, you could have a candid conversation with your so called friends about how you perceive the recent changes in your interactions. Express your feelings and give them the opportunity to share their perspective. If they don't listen to your concerns or continue to be unsupportive, it might be best to distance yourself from that negativity. Your family's well-being is the top priority, so don't hesitate to prioritize your peace of mind. Surround yourself with those who appreciate and accept your family just as you are. If you feel like there will be no change cut them off

Sorry! I personally don’t bother spending time with people who are judgmental of my son with autism. He has enough challenges without being around negativity and criticism. Since they’re good friends you could talk. I mostly move on and look for people who are kind and understanding of the fact that we all have different needs.

Ask them. Be direct. But in a polite, non-emotional manner.

@Shala I really love them as a family because I have no family ( other than my family that I created ). There are the type of people that can be educated and other that feel they know everything. Unfortunately as much as I love them I cant educate them more because everytime we get together it seems they know more about autism than us ( because they had been to a party or something where there was an autistic child and they get to talk with the mom or something). Im sorry but thats not knowing what autism is. I though maybe is in my heard let me take a deep breath, but I guess is not in my head. Maybe they are indeed uncomfortable sharing with us. But the right thing to do is get distance from them because whoever doesn’t accept my children’s doesn’t accept me. Is sad but the family I created comes first. Thank you so much for commenting and giving me your point of view. I really appreciate it.

i would just try to talk to them about it. you could be right and they might just have some stigma and not want to spend time with you or depending on how high functioning the child is, if your not used to being around someone with autism it could be overwhelming for them they might just not know how to handle it and not know how to ask or bring up the subject which is not really an excuse but at least you would know it’s not that they don’t like you or your child

@Julia thank you! Unfortunately thats a topic that once you start a conversation they will be on denial they wont tell me if they are ashamed to go out with us or if they are bothered by our special schedule. Just because they might bot want to hurt my fillings, because is my child. They seem lovely when we are alone I do have to say that but there is always an excuse when it comes to go out. Because now this is not just my idea, its time to distance my family from the friendship because where my child is not accepted Im not either. Thank you for clarifying I appreciate it!

@Anya I dont think they would say anything to not hurt my feelings. At the end of the day its a delicate subject about one of the most important person in my life… my child.

@Meira my child is very well behave and they had seen my child a few time and they seem like they love him and everything its just when we offer to go out out like on vacation.