“Selective” ADHD??
Apologies for the strange title - I’m just wondering if anyone is experiencing anything similar or can offer advice?
My 3.5 year old is generally really well behaved.He’s thoughtful and kind,and will do what I ask him.At home,he’s happy to play by himself or sit with me for extended periods of time to read/ do a puzzle/ paint etc. (obviously he does also have his moments!!) At his preschool,we hear the same.
But when he is around other children socially,he morphs into a wild thing!At soft plays/ parks etc he will scream and shout (to an extreme level),ignore me or be really defiant with the most simple instruction (eg - stop running/ come here etc),jump all over furniture,shout in the face of other children etc.We do sometimes get a side eye from other parents,it’s that bad.In his swimming group every week,the other children are waiting patiently listening to the instructor and he is bouncing and splashing around the pool singing,and has to be brought back by the assistant.
I don’t want to constantly be nagging and telling him off (I know being “too” strict can cause issues),but we also firmly enforce clear boundaries and consequences - and frequently end up having to leave (or with me losing my temper) because of how he’s behaving.We always tell him what will happen/ take him to a quiet place to calm down/ distract with something else etc. This results in screaming tantrums that we don’t have at home.
I work with older children who have ADHD and what I’m seeing with this children is almost a carbon copy of what I’m seeing with my son.BUT - it’s only ever in these particular situations.I can’t be the only one??
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The instructors role their eyes and don’t give her the time of day and this is done in front of me mind 😬 I phoned health visitor and they were lovely but said “she is 3 and still little.”
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In a similar boat with my little girl! Some days are good, others are not. In pre school there are days where she doesn’t listen and again some days she does but regardless of that she does not stop. She is here, there and everywhere!!! From the moment she wakes up, to the moment she goes to sleep. At home she is not to bad but does climb on sofa and turns lights off for no reason. Caught her sliding down the bannister earlier. She is told off but it’s like she forgets? Taking her out is like an olympic sport… doesn’t listen, no awareness of danger and her emotional response to not getting her own way or crying for no reason is exhausting. No matter how hard we try and calmly explain the dangers she just doesn’t take it in. She even presses the button on the straps of her carseat to loosen them to take her arms out despite being told of the dangers. Me and my husband are at our whits end. She goes to gymnastics and she isn’t naughty and is kind but she just cannot stay still and