How do you handle the sadness of separation

I feel sad & kind of blaming myself for overreacting but I had to stand up for myself. My H has been verbally & emotionally abusive & this has escalated since I got pregnant. I have noticed the disrespect has just gotten worse as he is convinced that because I’m pregnant, I need him. I have tried to keep the harmony until I give birth but things became unbearable on Saturday night when he scared me in my sleep out of spitefulness. I felt the shock in my stomach. When expressed how I felt about the situation, I was quickly dismissed & that left me do angry. The next morning he started insulting me & calling me names because I pulled the blanket as I woke up ( I was angry from what he did the night before). Anyways, the insults continued & I couldn’t bear anymore so I asked him to leave. Things escalated quickly afterwards but I left as he was packing his stuff. I knew I wanted to leave the marriage after the baby is here but I feel I fell for the bait. I thought I’d have a peaceful night afterwards but I barely slept as I was overthinking about what just happened. How do I manage my mind? I texted him when I calmed down to make him realise the consequences of his actions but there’s been no response. P.S: He never takes accountability for anything which drives me mad.
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You can only control you, that’s how you manage your mind. You cannot make someone take accountability for their own actions. It sucks..I know trust me I’m going through understanding this process myself but just focus on you and your child.

You’re right to leave, good job. Unless he can take accountability it will definitely get worse. As far as managing your mind, think about what makes you feel safe. I call friends, talk to my therapist, pray. I go for walks and take showers and watch lighthearted tv shoes when I’m stressed. You will be ok and figure everything out eventually, it’s just a matter of getting through this hardest time. Don’t go back to him unless/until he has truly repented and changed forever (unlikely to happen). Do NOT put him on the birth certificate. You can always put him on later if there’s a miracle, but you can’t take him off, so be wary.

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