Relationship Advice

So it looks like my relationship is over as of today, without going into too much detail he just has nothing nice to say to me or about me/ has constant outbursts calling me a piece of shit, twat, spoilt brat etc when all I do is help him out with all his life admin and 100% of the childcare.

He can be nice but it only lasts a few days then back to being nasty. The main problem is if I move back with my family it’s a 5 hour drive away from him. I don’t want my son to not see his dad or nan but at the same time I don’t want him to grow up hear me being spoken to like that. I also am so worried about leaving him with his dad who has never even made him a meal or taken him out in the car until this week.

Any advice is well appreciated as I feel like I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place.

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Just go! If you don’t it will just continue because he won’t take you seriously and he’ll be thinking “she’ll never leave” you have to put yourself and your baby first. It’s not easy but if you’re doing 100% of the child care anyway it won’t make much difference. I understand it’s easier said than done but my advice. Just go. If he wants to see baby he’ll travel. Sometimes you need to make a point to be taken seriously.

I personally think you need to go, his dad can make the effort to see him or FaceTime everyday. You’ll have your family near so your little one will have that additional support system (and you of course).
He doesn’t sound like much of a father and if it goes to court then you’ll need evidence of this. Keep any txt messages etc when you’ve told people what he hadn’t done so you can show how useless he is.
Hope you can rebuild, you really don’t deserve to have anyone treat you like that. And the impact on your son will be huge x

Go! You can meet him half way of the journey.. or he can travel to see his son right? If he wants to he will. He’s verbally abusive and that is not okay!

Agree with all the above! 👆 hope you are okay xx

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My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

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I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

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