Behaviour

My son is nearly 3. Every time I collect from nursery he has thrown or grabbed or, as of last week, hit. I'm so frustrated. It's the same when we take him places. He's not an easy child at home, but it's not the same. I'm terrified he's not going to be ok to school and the behaviours will get worse. I work in a special school and have so much behaviour training but I just don't know how to not feel so shit and to help him. Any advice would be great.

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Sounds like a regular toddler tbh!

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@Caroline I do agree to an extent, but from feedback from nursery and from experiencing others the same age, he is doing it far more and much more impulsively. That's my concern. He also has speech delay so I know some of it comes from frustration as well. It's just really stressful. For example, we struggle to do toddler groups as it results in us having to leave as he gets so dysregulated.

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My son is like this right now and he’s three years and four months old. He also had speech delay before. I wonder if it’s a phase or autism.

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that's interesting that he also had speech delay. My son isn't autistic, but may well have ADHD.

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I can imagine that having a speech delay makes communication and many situations more frustrating than it is for others in his room. I wouldn't worry too much yet!

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@Caroline thanks. 🩷

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It could just be because he's frustrated with not being able to communicate his needs. Is he hungry, tired, bored at nursery? Is he witnessing others doing it and copying them?

My daughter will be 3 in April, and although she has excellent language skills, she hits out when she's frustrated because she is tired or doesn't get what she wants.

It's normal behaviour, but keep an eye on him and maybe keep a diary of when he does it and what happened before x

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My son is 3 in March and has been referred to SALT by his nursery, he started doing this and also biting, I spoke to his nursery teacher about it and there is kid who is also doing it, this said kid has been off poorly for a week or 2 and he hardly been doing it, so I'm wondering if he's been copying this behaviour 🤷 it must be so frustrating though not being able to communicate how he's feeling

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