Judgy family, mostly MIL
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Sorry to hear that! When my mom made comments in the past, I talked to her nicely and she’s ok. My grandma also suggested giving water to my baby so he can be “hydrated” but I explained to her that water can be toxic for babies less than 6m and milk is enough. She did it out of love and concern, and she genuinely didn’t know it can be toxic. Husband has talked to MIL about stuff. He has even gotten pretty upset with her and has told her to let him be (she does it to him too) and to mind her business. He has my back all the way, but she keeps pushing. That’s why I feel like one of these days I’ll tell her off and hurt her feelings. Its ok. We will do what is best for our babies and everyone else can just deal with it 💁🏼♀️ We are strong @Alicia ❣️
At least you don't live with her and have to have to arguments daily/hourly. My MIL is from a different culture so we have that struggle as well. We have a daily argument about milk/formula (my son is 2yo). So much to the point that she comes to our dr appointments and I had our dr refer us to a nutritionist It's good that your husband backs you up. Socks on, not the end of the world. Hats can overheat a baby so they should only be worn outside.
Can’t stand when MY parents try to tell me what to do, make shady comments about my parenting, even said some nasty things about my child, like (she needs a diet) they adopted me when I was 6 so they never even had a baby before. It sickens me that they don’t think I’m capable of making the best decisions for my child, when clearly, I’ve been doing it alone without their help for damn near 2 years.
I’ve set boundaries and by that I mean, I snapped on everyone and I told them that this is my child not theirs, and anything that has to do with MY child keep it to themselves because I clearly know what I’m doing, they haven’t said A THING since 😉
I’m basically going through the same thing but with my own mum and nana. They’re always making comments on what we should be doing like my nana said I should offer BOILED water to a 9 week old? 🤨 It’s hard since it’s family but now I just tell them how overwhelmed they are getting and for them to respect my decisions since it’s my own baby. Your husband should also have a one on one conversation with his own mum about how some of her actions can be overwhelming. Postpartum is full of hormones that is completely out of your control so let her understand that you’re 10x more emotional. You’re strong mumma you got this 🥰💕