I want to cheat on my boyfriend 😣

He's 24 and I'm 20*

Honestly maybe have an open conversation with him about it. Tell him how you feel and what are his thoughts.

Texting his friends that is foul

The text to his friend is awful! And I’m sorry to hear about your past! No one deserves that. I wouldn’t cheat if I was you, I’ve been on the receiving end of that and it’s the worst feeling ever, if you wanna date people then break up with him first but please think about it,, you get men that only want sex and there’s the risk that you’ll feel worthless and used, the uncertainty of it, the fact that your partner may never want you back, you might miss having that family unit and most importantly you have your child to think of, if you were to cheat or break up just cause you wanted sex with other men and your child found out when they were older, could you live with that? But definitely address the comments from your boyfriend if you haven’t done so before, that’s not nice at all

@Elizabeth she has seen texts, she’s not texting his friends.

you’re honestly not missing out on much. sleeping with other people can be kinda ass bc your man knows your body and can make you feel good everytime. AND he loves you 🙂‍↕️ remember as a couple you can go on double dates, hit the fucking strip club girl they got couples nights, and do so much more. you could talk to him about how you’re feeling. i don’t think you wanna cheat on him, you just wanna be adventurous. i mean what if you ask about a threesome or something idk. but reading this doesn’t seem like you wanna hurt him, you just wanna live a little like he did. what he’s done be for you shouldn’t matter so that envy should fade. plus you just had a baby 4 months ago!!

Have a open conversation with him, I tell you I’ve never been with anyone other than my husband we met when he was 19 and I was 20, now I’m 23 and he’s 22, we happily married. I never imagined to sleep with anyone, I don’t even want to experience. He dated 3 girls before me, but he always reassured me that I’m the most beautiful one even though I know I’m not 😅 but his words help me. Counseling is a good idea.

@Alyssa yeah that’s what I mean - he’s foul for texting that to his friends.

I tell people, "If you didn't live your hoe life while young, you're gonna want to live it when you're older". 🤷‍♀️

You shouldn’t let his past or even your past affect your relationship, as that will end up destroying what you both have. Whoever you’ve been/slept with and whoever he’s been with shouldn’t matter as that was the past. What he texted his friends isn’t very nice and you should bring that up to him. Tell him how you feel. Maybe try and spice your sex life up in the bedroom with him instead of thinking about cheating? Cheating won’t get you anywhere. Especially now that you have a baby together.

@B lol I love this 😭

From when i saw he’s telling his mates im not as attractive as others he’s been with id be gone that’s humiliating even if you wasn’t supposed to see it . Go and explore x

I clicked while scrolling, I did not mean to select that!

@B this is bad advice🤣

If you hadn’t seen the text, would you still feel this way do you think?

I know for a fact that my husband has had (imo) prettier women he’s been with sexually. I’m also aware of some of the experiences he had before me. While I did have a “hoe” phase before him it’s nothing like what he experienced. So he’s still “more experienced “ in that realm than I am. Sometimes I feel self conscious about not being as pretty or experienced as some of the people he’s been with BUT he never makes me feel like it’s a concern for him. He’s very much loving, caring, amazing in every way. I get how you are feeling but cheating is not the answer. Maybe be open with him and tell him how you feel.

Most men will have a higher body count than is women. It’s completely normal everything that your boyfriend did before yall started dating. I’m 21 and my husband is 24 so not far off, I also was raped before I met him and he was technically my first but he had more than 10. What happened before yall got together isn’t important all that’s important is now. Cheating won’t make you feel any better nor will it do anything but hurt him and your child. You have a family now and need to focus on your family. You need to talk to him about how you are feeling and what he could do differently

@elia yes, I would. Part of the reason that I feel this way may be I build up of going through similar situations to the text message one. He has gone as far as recording his coworkers butt saving the videos (yes, plural) to his phone. He did this to me 2 months postpartum. He has micro cheated on me but never taken it to the physical level.. it's a mix of her, jealousy, and immaturity on my part

I don’t think it’s immaturity, I think you need to figure out the crux of it. If none of that happened and you was the only person he was focused on, would you still have the desire to be step out? If you did then it’s not a feeling of anger towards him, it’s a feeling on inadequacy on your part and you can work on that without compromising yourself. But if you are wanting to cheat as a retaliation towards him, then you’re angry and you have every right to be of course, but my advise would be to not lower your standards because of him and to let you know that if you’re not married, you still have your whole life ahead of you to be found by someone who will feel you’re enough

I was in a similar situation when I was 23, I married my first boyfriend & ended up cheating on him repeatedly because I had never experimented, until I fell in truly love with another guy & unplanned started an affair. The break was nasty & I felt like the worst person in the world. The truth is I was unhappy & my husband & my life with him was just unsatisfying. I just didn’t realise it at the time. My husband was a lovely person just not the one for me. I’m glad I didn’t stay with him but I completely regret not recognising & acknowledging my own feelings & wish I didn’t hurt him the way I did to fine my true love. I would never cheat on anyone ever again if I remotely feel like that about a guy now I know he’s not the one for me…

@elia I'm really not sure to be honest. I start therapy next Tuesday and I plan to slowly divulge into my thoughts and feelings and figure myself out. In my head if I hadn't been raped and if I had slept with other people I would be happier right now. Sometimes I find a little counsel in the fact at least I slept with my rapist by choice after what happened and at least I had SOMEONE before my partner. 🙁 Maybe if he's been better to me during this relationship I wouldn't feel this way, I didn't in the beginning before I knew everything he's done with other women during our relationship. Or just boundaries he's broken or things he's said about me. 🫤