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Nervous around older kids
My daughter has become very nervous and scared around older children. The school let all the year groups mix on lunch breaks and my daughter has now stopped wanting to go to school. Her teacher has said that she is really confident in her class but I know that she cries sometimes at lunch as she is around the older children. I am trying to build her confidence and talk with her a lot about this but she gets really upset. She begs me not to take her to school and let her stay with me. I know this is because she feels safe with me and doesn't need to worry.
She always used to be drawn to older children and this behaviour only started in November.
Does anyone relate to this and have any tips on what I can do to help her be less scared. I hate the thought of her being upset at lunch and me not being able to help her
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@Caroline this was my first thought as well. I have been having regular meetings with the school, spoken to my daughter etc. none of us can put our finger on what caused it. The only thing I can put it down to is confidence when there are big groups of older kids. I am working on her confidence out of school but just hoping I'm not missing anything
Has there been an issue with an older child? Have you spoken to the school? Perhaps an older child has been picking on her or making her uncomfortable? If my child was behaving this way that's probably where my mind would jump to first so I'd want to explore that first.