Has anyone had any negative comments from close family or friends in their pregnancy?

My older sis who has always belittled me in her own way has said 2 comments, 1 of them sticking to me in particular. The first one that is sticking to me quite a lot was her saying "but you don't have a high pain tolerance" when I said I was planning to have a natural unmedicated birth... And I was just like (in my head), like where is your back up for this statement...?? And what kind of thing is that to say to someone whose gonna have a baby. It basically came across to me like "You can't handle the pain". And the 2nd comment was "you're definitely going to get gestational diabetes". Because I eat a lot of rice and carbs basically... and she mostly eats vegetables and very occasionally meat and rice. I got my results back 2 weeks ago and was cleared negative. But then it just made me think, like wtf that's not a nice thing to say either. Now I hope SHE GETS IT when she becomes pregnant. I wonder if anyone can relate or maybe validate what I'm feeling from above comments. How would you react to these comments. Is it a wtf thing to say? I'm scared that during labour ill feel the pain of contractions and have her voice saying I can't handle it and then I'll give in or something. I don't have a history of strong period cramps, so a bit of my fear is that I won't actually be able to handle it. But I've gone through a lot in my life and truly believe my mental grit is hard-core.

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At the end of the day, you get to choose what voice is in your head and what words bring meaning to you. There will be loads of unsolicited advice coming. we can’t control other people but we can control how we respond to it. Make your vision of how YOU want your labor bigger than anyone else. It’s going to be you and your little one. You got this momma

Yes almost everyday, I've become numb to it but here and there those voices pop up and I get emotional But you've just got to look at the bigger picture, so long as you're healthy and baby - those are what the mind should be occupied with Also I'd suggest setting some boundaries even if it hurts, I've had to do it because I don't want my child listening to that and watching me disrespect myself

I've mostly chosen not to talk to people about my birth wants, as I have the same as you. My mum has previously said don't focus on your birth plan just have a birth, when in reality I've been told she was very disappointed at how her own birth turned out. I also equally had comments from various people about watching what I eat and how I'd balloon etc when in reality I've only put on around 10 pounds so far. I think it's hard not to let these things get to you as ultimately they arent nice things to say, although ultimately they may just be projecting. I'm just focused on doing my own prep daily of affirmations, breathing exercises, and stretching etc rather than worrying about pain tolerance or anything as I think that could just affect your mindset.

Hypnobirthing helps me block out external comments/noise and affirmations are really good for reminding you that your body is meant to handle this! Your body is different to everyone else’s! You’ve got this!

I don't think you realise how much little comments about birth have such a big effect until your pregnant. I've thought alot about what I will say to friends who are trying to get pregnant or that are pregnant in the future. No scare stories but just being there to listen and support is important. You'll do amazing, giving birth is a natural process, block out the comments and believe in your body 🥰

Thank you everyone, it's been really lovely reading these comments and feeling supported in this April community we have 🥰

you don’t know how you’ll cope in birth until you’re in labour, there’s no way of preparing for it so you might surprise yourself and everyone else. ignore them all, people will constantly criticise once baby’s born so just focus on doing what you need to do

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