What am I doing wrong or is this every little boy??

My almost 4yo is so so mischievous, he will do all sorts of known no-nos so he ends up in time outs (like hitting we don’t redirect with that,it’s time out). then he’s been good for a few days/week, he starts getting maybe reckless playing-throws a big stuffy at baby knocking her over so time out for first time in a few days then he’s back to mischievous doing stuff everyday it seems back to back ugh idk what to do

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he thinks it’s funny to tease and knows it’s not nice we have a whole bully song and talk everytime too

I'd say redirect. If he wants to hit or throw then what can he channel this into. If one of mine starts throwing then I give them something tough and a challenge of what to try and throw at

we don’t redirect right then because he knows it’s bad by now and if he thinks it’s funny yeah no that’s being mean but very often we have said you can throw them over there(where no one is esp baby)

Like he’ll do what we have said to do instead after he’s been in time out sometimes without us telling him so he knows what to do/not to do because it’s mean so I feel frustrated just stop bullying your siblings😫

To add on to , the thing I picked up on is that you said he will be good for a few days, then he suddenly acts out and gets bad again. On the good days, do you still give him equal amounts of attention? Or is he getting more attention when he's misbehaving? Sometimes, especially with a new baby, we may be inclined to let a well-behaved child be, but maybe he realizes that being good isn't getting him much attention, and acting out is his way of getting it. Just a thought!

I would give redirecting a chance and not give any emotion to the hitting. He maybe looking for attention even if means it negative attention.

it’s during a time I can’t pay attention to any like cleaning one mess he’s done already or a couple dishes or getting food ready. Totally understand for attention, I try to make sure I have separate moments with all of them throughout the day but maybe because he’s oldest he may feel he needs more or misses me most

if I did that he would be hitting them over again because no ones said anything, I’ve taught my 2yo to be assertive and say no stop it or I don’t want to and I let her say something but she’ll end up upset because he did it more than once

I don’t like freak out because it’s a sibling thing they clash I get it, most the time I’m just come on man you know better you don’t like it when they’re being hurtful etc it’s just frustrating

4 is still pretty young as far as impulse control. Its not just a boy thing but boys do tend to show more physical aggression. How's his behavior at school or daycare compared to home? Does he ever bully other kids there?

he hasn’t started yet as the age is 4 here but he starts in the fall so I want him to be ready to be around all the other kids as well we make sure he has little friends and is nice (sometimes pushy) it’s just his younger siblings we’ve ever had an issue with him being mean and laughing at it

And yeah I can tell his impulse control is wild because he’ll do something and just stare at me when I ask why did you just do that lmao he’s like 😯 as surprised as I am 😂 love being a mom being I’m in a nutshell some weeks

how about have him join you doing these stuff he’s 4 he can definitely help clean up. Get one of those kids kitchen set and have him help you cut something.

Sounds like he’s interested in physics

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