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@Mohannahas thank you! & he’s black and I’m Latina, first generation American, so I grew up in a very traditional Latin household
So I’m black and Latina. I’ve realized now that I have a brother and seeing how my grandma is with my uncle’s, black moms tend to be the stereotypical mom that makes their son their boyfriends. They won’t let them go very easily and will remind you any chance they get that they gave birth to them. My mom seems like she’s trying to raise my brother to think he owes her everything. And grandkids will always be precious. No matter how much they hate you, they will always want and care for the grandkids. Sometimes my grandma will rs just treat the mom like crap and say anything wrong in their relationship is their fault and my uncle’s are angels. My mom will call me and say she dgaf about me and just wants to see my kids. So it could be a cultural thing unfortunately
Also most black sons are very protective of their moms and never want to anger or stress them. So that fs is cultural
@Mohannahas I knew it!! Yes yess !! That’s exactly what it is. & he’s always saying “well she’s my momma for ever”
My husband was similar tbh. He’s Chinese. He’s finally getting out of that mindset and pissing his mom off everytime she’s tries it. Unfortunately until he’s ready, you’ll have to stand up for you and the kid(s) and put your foot down with him. He needs to open his eyes and also realize who is more important to him, his wife or his mom
@Mohannahas but what if he says “well both of you are important to me, and my mom is a single mom so, as the oldest son, it’s kind of my responsibility…”
Idk if you guys are similar, but I was always taught that once you make your own family, that family is priority. If you can prioritize that family over everyone else then you’re not ready for a family. Outsiders will ruin that family you created. He needs to understand that or this won’t work well for him. He’ll lose one side.
I really wish she elaborates. I really hope eh has siblings. Can’t exactly stop talking to my husband. Husband: “what did I forget? Why are you mad at me?” Me: “your mom said if she has problems with someone then they can’t be around her kids, adult kids included. So we must keep our distance from here on. Love ya!” But otherwise, I’m sorry you deal with this. If you don’t mind me asking, what’s the culture of your husband?