Boy Moms: do you allow your son to wear pink?

As a masculine woman. I found that, that’s how I was born. No amount of my mum sending me to dance classes, making me wear dresses and be a stereotypical girl was going to change that. If your boy is naturally feminine pushing a masculine stereotype on him is more likely to lead to him trying to hide it which ultimately will be bad for his mental health. We don’t push gender stereotypes on our kids.

My son’s favourite colour was pink when he was 3-4, he’s nearly 7 now and is over it. It’s just a colour, until 100ish years ago it was associated with boys rather than girls anyway. Also just adding that the mindset of ‘pink is for girls and it’s bad for boys to be like girls’ just reinforces that feminine = bad/inferior which is just overall not great for society and how women or men who aren’t stereotypically masculine are treated.

I'm definitely gonna support my son regardless an no matter what I'm not sure where that context was from, he will always have unconditional love; I just don't see how he could be gay when there's clear physiological reason: how the child navigates through childhood. (Which is where to me naturally feminine wouldn't be quite realistic as he's not around or being forced to be masculine he's a lil boy and I keep just like that) But whether popular notions like heterosexuality and homosexuality really capture the complexity of human sexuality is another question. Your sexual orientation is part of your personality, something you develop from your personal history and experiences that isn't really malleable retroactively or choosable but still the sum of your life development.And as for gender stereotypes I seek to make my child happy there's other colors to choose from I don't see the problem in giving options of Green Dino slippers vs Spider-Man slippers

I guess the question is what are you going to do if he wants the fluffy unicorn slippers? This was me and my mum. She was offering the feminine options and I wanted things with football and teenage mutant hero turtles on 😂

I'm not sure about some of the statements you've made if I'm honest.. Sexuality isn't a personality trait, or a choice and it doesn't happen just because a guy wore pink or a woman wore football stuff. I have THE most feminine mum, who wanted a girly girl.. I never liked any of it. Never felt right, never felt like me. I wanted to wear comfy clothes, shorts and a top, trousers and a top and she wouldn't let me because they were "boys" things. Me being gay had nothing to do with my clothing choices, because my wife is super feminine and always has been yet she's still gay. But my mother pushing me into boxes I didn't want to be in fractured my view of myself and fractured our relationship. My brother used to wear my cousins dress up clothes and heals when he was younger, my dad still likes to throw on his wife clothes when he's drunk.. both straight as an arrow and hyper masculine. It means nothing. Let the boy explore pink, let the boy dress as elsa if he wants to 🤷‍♀️ Make him feel safe.

If he wants to, i will, but he hasn't so far, so I haven't forced the issue. My son is 15 years old and prefers to wear blues greens grey blacks etc pink has never been a colour he has gone to though when he was younger there wasn't a lot of boys clothes that were pink.

I think you have some negative opinions against the idea of men being gay because calling someone a "fruitcake" in my eyes is demeaning? Like it's clear you don't approve and there really is no other way to interpret that. I think you'd probably lose your mind if you met my husband. He loves pink, he dyes his hair, he wears eyeliner on occasion, is bisexual and is probably the least "manly" man I know, but I would never dream of calling him fruitcake because that's nothing but demeaning in my eyes. Kids will grow up to be whatever they become, the only difference is that if you are supportive of them no matter what then you get to stay a part of their life. If you're trying to push the man's man life on him, yes he might embrace it but he also might despise it and the impact that can have is devastating. Let him wear the pink.

@Mia 🌼 if i could like this twice I would 🙌🏻

Genuinely confused how pink clothing has any impact on how a boy grows up or how you raise him? I'm raising my little boy to hopefully be comfortable in his own skin regardless of his likes/dislikes. If he wants something pink and "girly" then that's his choice. He also is learning, in an age appropriate way, about both male and female anatomy, including things like periods. Lack of understanding or refusing to talk about certain things is what leads to taboo subjects and people being shamed for things which are completely natural and totally outwith their control. Not only that, but raising boys with the traditional "boys don't cry" type attitude leads to men who have no idea how to deal with negative emotions which is just plain unhealthy for them and everyone around them. Oh, and there's absolutely nothing you can do to make your child straight or gay.

@Katie couldn't agree more! I'm fed up of men growing up having absolutely 0 ability to manage their own emotions as well as having 0 idea about women's experiences. There's no traditional gender roles in our house. My son will also learn to cook, clean and take care of people. He will learn that so that any of the women he encounters don't have to suffer what so many of my female friends have.

We have boundaries for my boy- he can wear pink he has a purple bike he has a pink ball he can play w dolls and barbies if he wishes, he can paint his nails I have painted them for him. But we won’t allow him to wear dresses that’s probably the extent we’ll go. However, his traditional Vietnamese costume for Chinese new year somewhat resembles a “dress” but we said no to him wanting to be Rosalina (character from Mario) for book week. He’s also very emotional, empathetic and very affectionate so he’s “softer” than most boys and I love that he’s like that, I know he’ll be a great bf/Dad one day having that kind of compassion. His fav colour is currently pink, try telling him otherwise 😂

He can definitely wear pink, will I n buy him items from the girls section? No. If that's his choice when he's buying his own clothes 🤷🏾‍♀️

My son loves pink. He wear it and lots of his toys are pink. Who says pink is not for boys? Let them be. That's weird.

So my children’s father is in our home, I’m married and he has some amount of input in what our children will or won’t be doing as minors. I say that because I notice more times than not that when women do things like dress their sons femininely in dresses and such many times it appears that the father is not in the home or they don’t take his position into account at all on the matter. We- my husband and I have decided (collectively) for our son to present in a masculine manner, as his father does and for our daughters to present in a feminine manner as I do. This is particularly true for our children while they’re tots - very young. I shop for my children online and at this time their input on what they wear, what toys I for them purchase is not taken into account at the age of 1 and 3. & likely won’t be routinely until they’re much older ie approaching tween / teens etc. With that being said I would purchase a pink collard shirt either long or short sleeve for my son and tie and

that likely would be the extent of it. My son doesn’t currently have any pink items in terms of clothes in his wardrobe at this time and neither does his father. He won’t be doing pink dresses,an entire pink outfit, gellies, heels - purses or anything that’s customarily / routinely worn by individuals who present in a feminine manner within society.

Girl, if he’s going to be gay, you not letting him wear pink isn’t going to change the outcome. All it will do is change yojr relationship with him. No one has ever “turned” gay from playing dress up.

We almost bought a pink pajama but they didn't have their size

No but if a shirt has pink on it I’m not about to make it a big deal. But I do tell him what we deem appropriate.

My son wore pink when he was younger. Now that he’s older he picks his own clothes for the most part and just doesn’t like the color anymore. Also, you’re giving yourself away by calling your ex a fruitcake.

I hate the color pink as do all of my children... in India, pink is for boys. As far as is it "gay"... no. As far as boundaries yes. We have boundaries we feel are appropriate for their ages. My boys can't go topless in a pool nor can our daughter. No double standards for the most part.

Everyone's feelings hurt for calling my ex a fruitcake can kiss my heini 😮‍💨😘 and I say that politely; when you don't know full context you sound ridiculous; I'm just laughing not mad just read your opinion an move on with my day... I've emotionally healed from his trauma. But that boy held me at gun point, physically drained me energetically and put his hands on me at my workplace (was a hospital at the time) so don't just reflect on my words get a load of his actions and cheating that he did that also affected me because he'd just bring anything back sexually transmitted disease and blame it on me; think again. Whether or not he is; his actions are disgusting. So really if you have a man that wears pink good for you, I'm not pushing that against my family period... I just find it funny how you link that to demeaning but can't account for things you obviously wouldn't know. If you're happy in your relationship; gay, bi, or straight good I'm happy for you, worry bout your kids!

Sorry your ex is such a piece of shit. But what does being a “fruit cake” or wearing pink have to do with abuse? I don’t understand the correlation or why you used your ex as an example in this situation.

He's only ever had pink pajamas, but I wouldn't have a problem with him wearing a pink shirt or something. My husband has pink shirts too 🤷

I will always dress my son in boy clothes, but if something is boyish and pink, i wouldnt have an issue. If its like a pink princess outfit, no. His dad might not want pink in general but mostly because he just doesnt like pink.

I mean I’ve seen men wear pink shirts, I’d let my son wear a pink shirt. I wouldn’t dress him in all pink (that’s my opinion) but to me it’s just a color. My husband works in the heavy equipment industry, he’s a blue collar worker and his favorite color is midnight purple/ dark shade of purple, so to me they are all just colors.

@Cici 100 percent agree with this, this is how my husband explained it when we were talking if it’s boyish and pink and not girly then our son could wear it

Omg just imagine letting a child express themselves by wearing a colour that they like! 😱😱😱 I put a blindfold on my son most of the time because otherwise he might see too much pink and that will somehow magically make him gay Being a man, woman, person is not defined by the colours you wear. Sexuality is not defined or influenced by the colours you wear. If your child wants to wear pink, the only thing you achieve by refusing is letting them know their opinions/wants/feelings don't really matter to you, or will make them feel wrong or bad for liking a colour. That's just sad.

My 35 year old very masculine straight husband wears pink. He has various shades of pink shirts and even keeps a fuzzy pink blanket in his work truck in case he wants a nap(semi driver). If we allow our daughters to wear every shade why can’t boys? Why over sexualize colors? Should they not like pink fruits too? Or not color with pink crayons? They are children. Who cares?

Yall 😂 let's your kids wear whatever it really has no bearing to me; live your life and im gonna live mine with my family happily full of travel and being home with my kids as they arent going far because i have the luxury to stay with my child, not putting them into an education system thats limiting and prison format; he will be able to be home learn the family business travel with us as we open offices across states and overseas whether you agree to disagree great but my kids will be loved nurtured and will have just about anything they could want; mind you they'll have horse of their own, they'll have their own toy car to drive does that mean ima paint the horse pink or get a pink car no 😂 a color is a color you said that right and theirs a whole bunch of colors to choose from. And as for gay, lol I'm not gonna even entertain that because my sons little and he very much knows female and males, and prefers women so the naturally feminine and what not is out the door.

Enjoy your delusions 😂 if your son even is real I hope there's someone in his life to teach him not to be a prick like you 😂😂😂 I'm sure he'll work it out one day on his own anyway

@Brittany it took me getting with my husband and having our son to realize the abuse I endured; my man gave me peace of mind just from explaining over a collective time on what a man will do and how he provides, from getting ready, taking action, looking at the friends they have, it was more all new to me since I hadn't had a relationship besides the ex (and a catfish relationship in my teens😂) but the point is I used him as the example because if you didn't have a huge dating history it would add up to why I feel a certain way about it! Everyone's right to their own sexual preferences and what not but don't drag me through it. And why waste my time an cheat and bring sexual disease it's just disrespectful that's not a man that's immature and distasteful. I wouldnt wish that on anyone... especially when that person gaslighted me into thinking I'm the one in wrong when he did the dirty n got caught! I left the state after, literally met my husband when I left; god has a way that's all.

Your replies get more confusing each time.. I hope your son has to opportunity to be whoever he wants to be and is supported by both you and this husband you speak so highly of, for his sake. Please don't try to fit him into any boxes, he is not meant to be a mirror of your husband, he is supposed to be an individual. All the best. 😊

@Jamie don't see how it's confusing read between the lines if it's that confusing 🤷 I appreciate the sentiment though... my son will be able to be whoever he wants to be an explore all the while not constrained and limited in his actions... it's important for kids to have both the mothers support and father's support and with that my kids have and I'm grateful to have that. I don't push being a copy of his father but his own individual self which he is and has his own personality! iAnd is growing you think ima hender; that'd be foolish and looking from the outside so ofc you can think and go off of what your seeing but don't have the full context.

Its a no for me unless asked, which i don't think they truly have preference until older. If they can't dress themselves, then it's the parents imposing it on them, in my opinion. I do not have pink clothes, not my favorite color. I have neutral for everything. If he is older and says hey I want that, pink polo, I'll get him it. But never have I gone into the girls' section and purposely bought pink clothes with the intention to dress my son up in pink clothes and shoes. I think that's crazy and mental.

Incognito, it sounds like you had your brain mixed up 😂. When I read your comments, nothing makes sense and the link between wearing pink ~ being gay ~ being abusive is super weird and show ignorance. I'm sorry you had experienced abuse in your past relationship. But trust me it had nothing to do with pink clothes

There are so many things wrong with the post. But also, do 10 seconds of research on pink for girls and blue for boys and you will realize it’s meaningless.

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