Daughter talking about my husband's "tube" that she can see from outline on his shorts. Idk what to do.

He's always been self conscious bc he can't hide it. His mom always made him wear hideous pleated khakis. He only wears shorts now. I finally got him feeling less self conscious. But now my 5yo daughter is talking about it. She doesn't know what a real one looks like but she can tell it's like a tube.

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Go a size up or get cotton, I used to hate my husband in grey joggers but now he wears shorts like everlast ect so they’re loose fitted

Honestly, I would just explain it to her, like when a lady wears a dress we can still tell she has breasts, sometimes in our clothes we can see the outline or shapes of other body parts. We don’t go around to every woman we see pointing out that we can see the shape of her boobs, so we don’t need to keep talking about being able to see the shape of daddy’s penis either 🤷🏻‍♀️ IMO he doesn’t need to hide it, or wear clothes he doesn’t want to, so long as he’s not prancing around in skin tight hot pants to advertise the fact. He doesn’t need to feel weird about your daughter mentioning it, kids are observant, but avoiding it or whatever won’t make her stop asking etc. so I would just explain it to her.

I’m confused what the huge deal is… just tell her daddy has different body parts to her

Chloe made a great comparison. It’s not too early to teach her about body parts. I’d pull out an anatomy book and probably add on the conversation about body safety.

@Emilie this🙏🏼

Penises are a protruding body part and hiding them 100% of the time is not possible. She’s 5 years old, it’s your duty as a parent to educate that boys and girls have different parts. It’s not a taboo subject. Use anatomically correct words and show her a diagram. It’s a human body which literally everyone has. Idk why people are so scared to tell their kids what a vagina or penis is.

Just tell her the truth she's 5, she should know anatomically correct terms for her parts, and boys, especially going into school. It's normal shouldn't be shamefull.

I’m hoping to approach things with the sense of if they’re able to ask the question they’re able to receive the real answer. I wouldn’t overload her with all this information about men and women’s bodies but if she asks what it is then tell her. If there’s a follow up question then answer it. But only go as far with the conversation as she is taking it

Tell her it’s a penis. She’s 5. She should probably already know what body parts are.

My daughter is 5 and she knows that daddy & her little brother have a ‘penis’ and herself & me have a ‘vagina’ it’s really not that big of a deal

Just tell her the truth! Boys have a penis. Don't make it a big deal.

Nothing you need to do. “That’s daddy’s willy, he’s a boy and he’s got different bits to us girlies. We have boobies and vaginas, boys have willies instead. Now leave him alone, let’s go watch bluey”. She’ll move on.

It's moreso that hubby is uncomfortable about it all since he's always been self conscious about it.

I think addressing what it is and that it’s a private area will help shift the attention off of it which in turn will help him feel more comfortable. Kids left curious will just push things. Best to say it and move on. Once she knows she won’t care.

I’ve had a conversation with my 4 year old about kindness & people’s bodies. We spoke about how if it’s not something someone can change quickly IE food in their teeth, something stuck in their hair etc we don’t bring it up. She understands this and it was based off of a conversation about a man who walked with a limp. Children are far smarter than we give them credit for and at 5 she will definitely understand if you explain to her it makes daddy a bit sad/uncomfortable when we talk about it