How to move forward?
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I’m living in the same situation, he was a narcissist & found him cheating on me so I packed his shit n told him to gtfo but now I’m lost my self esteem, my self worth my confidence is at an all time low. I’m ok being alone but it’s like I don’t even like to look at myself anymore. All I can say is make every day a new day & reflect on the true self u know u r b4 HIM
The day I left this type of situation I was a mess. I didn’t recognise who I was anymore. After having to talk about my situation with multiple people and services I found it got easier at times. It’s still hard don’t get me wrong. I’ve been sent a referral for a mental health professional, seen social workers, dealing with CPS and police too. I would recommend talking to people you’re comfortable with, if it’s possible a psychologist and focus on moving forward - looking back and holding regret and the should’ve/would’ve/could’ve doesn’t help you any now. If you’ve left, you know your self worth no matter how low you might feel now. I found some pages/videos on fb/yt regarding narcissists extremely kind of validating because it made me feel less crazy and not like I was imagining things (like being gaslit does to you over time). I also remembered who I was before the relationship, my sister had sent me videos of times when I was my more bubbly self and reflecting on that helped too
If anyone wants to talk or share their story, vent, or cry feel free to message me. Not any one of you beautiful mamas is alone in this and I’m always happy to be a listening ear or whatever you need ❤️
I went through similar when my daughter was 3 months old, her father was a narcissist and never helped with her. he left me for our “friend”. I was absolutely devastated. However after a month I realised that I was ok and didn’t want or need him anymore. You need to let yourself process your emotions first and then take your time to focus on you and your kids xx 6 months down the line and I’ve met the most wonderful and caring man in the world who loves us both as his own. It will get better I promise just let yourself process feelings run their course and go one step at a time and remember to hold people to the standard you expect and deserve xx
You just have to let go, you gotta understand that you’ll find better for you and your kiddos 💕 …I left after having my baby and never went back. Hmu if you ever need a friend