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i switched from strictly bf and pumping to combo feeding and i swear it saved my mental health a a lot more, im still at the point where im still trying to love my body seeing the difference of before r pregnancy to now, but i just try to think of it as if i could carry a baby and push one out i should love myself cause no man could ever lol but you are a amazing mom babes
Interesting that you say this happens when you pump or breastfeed as there is a condition called DMER which relates specifically to your letdown reflex (which can also be triggered when your baby cries). So that might be worth looking into as a probable cause. https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/24879-dysphoric-milk-ejection-reflex However, if you’re experiencing these emotions all the time, you may be suffering from PPD in which case it’s imperative that you talk to someone about it. It doesn’t make you a bad mum and it’s incredibly common - this period in your life is filled with challenges and the rewards can feel pretty far away. It’s normal to struggle and it doesn’t make you a bad mum - it makes you human.
One thing that helped me was talking through her birth with myself. Although it went fairly well it was still traumatic. I didn’t get to hold her for more than a few seconds after she was born and I hated that. Being able to process it helped me a lot. Talk to your therapist. It will help
Hi mama ! I just want to say you’re an outstanding mother, loosing yourself while caring for her does not make yourself a horrible mama I promise you! I do recommend talking with your therapist about it so you can help yourself . It’s okay to feel like this post birth the hormones are still trying to cooperate with you new lifestyle . And if your still uncomfortable with talking to therapist I would also recommend when your awake while pumping or while baby’s sleeping try and journal or write some thoughts down. My therapist recommended this for me and also to atleast find a daily goal I want to achieve! I started doing both and focusing on my breathing when upset like how you mentioned and they have helped me a lot !