Leaving...

The best thing I did was leave!

@Judy see my fear is coparenting.. I live in Utah, he lives in Arizona and his main family all live in Texas.

Co parenting can be hard for sure. But for your peace try to have conversations about visits/boundaries or go to court if you guys can’t come to a conclusion. But don’t stay in something that is ruining your peace just to have a “perfect family” if he won’t change, stand on business & separate yourself emotionally & romantically.

First step is recognizing you have been in a toxic situation for too long. 👏🏽👏🏽 I’m still pregnant but I left mine in Illinois and now live with family in Florida. I have ZERO regrets. I dealt with the same bullshit, wandering eyes, texting other women, it was after I found out the dummy slept with another girl I left. I love myself and my baby way too much to be with a loser like him. He wanted the picture perfect more than me but isn’t actually equipped with what it takes to hold that down. He was a whole liar and cheater underneath the facade. Have you talked to him about co-parenting? Is your family in Utah with you? Dont let co-parenting stop you from living a happy life. As long as you have some love and support (a village) you and baby boy will make it through. Even without a village, you will be okay. And please dont shy away from child support, it’s the least these boys can do for their kids. I say boys cuz men don’t treat the mother of their child this way. Know your worth.

I just want to say that ur very gorgoues! And u have a beautiful name and aura! With that said, U already know what u need to do, jus pray that God gives u the strength & courage to eventually leave. I wish u all the best mama! I know so many women in ur current situation & they had the same fear of “coparenting” with their ex bt jus know that ur gonna keep disrespecting urself if u stay in a relationship that u know u shud have ended a long time ago. Ur going to begin to resent ur partner, and resentment can turn into straight up hate. Don’t let it get there, try to leave before things turn anymore unhealthy & toxic. U know what u deserve, & u know no1 needs to beg somebody else to “change” or 2 get the respect or love u deserve. I’m so sorry for all the emotions ur partner put u thru while u was carrying his baby. A lot of times women are unable to forget how we were treated during pregnancy & post partum whether it’s good or bad, we tend to remember & our babies can be affected X

I'm glad I left and glad I have not family support he's been painting me as the bad guy to everyone and I finally had enough is started filling out forms for custody and child support as he never gave me anything but decided to have another child

@Judy he has changed his ways but it's the resentment I feel towards him for taking so long to change.

@Chinyere I'm so sorry that happened to you, you did not deserve that!.. One thing I won't tolerate is physical cheating. Although cheating comes in many forms like hearting girls pictures, messaging them, interacting with them, etc.. I've talked to him about coparenting and the closest he would move to is Las Vegas and he's fine with coparenting because apparently I'm not the same person as I was in the beginning of our relationship and this focus is on money and our son. He said I've disrespected him that he feels like he's not respecting himself to leave 😂 some men are weird. My family all live in Utah and I have all the love and support here.

@Jasmin ohhh thank you for that compliment, you're too kind! I will have to definitely pray for the strength to eventually leave because I can't be with someone that's not emotionally available and treats me like I'm supposed to bounce back after having a baby, this man said "you're not pregnant anymore so you shouldn't have pregnancy brain" Unfortunately, things are already like that, when I get upset I yell at him and say things like "I hate you, wish I never met you, I resent you" etc.... I tell him all the time I will never forget how he made me feel before, during and after my pregnancy. Just wish he was a little more supportive and lovey dovey.

Co-parenting is hard. I left my ex a few weeks before my baby was born. We went through a custody case to figure everything out. It's hard, but so much better than it would've been if we were still together. I live in Utah, too. If you have any questions or even want to get together to hang out or whatever, feel free to message me!

I’ve left and I’m not turning back

@Lianna would love to chat with ya and hang out, what part of Utah do you stay at?

@Sarah 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

@Daisy we live in Riverton and are moving to West Jordan in the spring

@Lianna I'm also in Riverton!

@Lianna well technically herriman

@Daisy that's awesome!!

@Daisy I been told the same thing. “I don’t have emotions or feelings” or “Idk how to do that” or some other bs. Now he hasn’t cheated but he’s emotionally abusive and immature. So I’m in the process of leaving I’m also 36w4d pregnant and he made my pregnancy horrible. It’s hard I wanted that perfect family too but I’ve accepted that there’s no such thing

@Alysa there's too much tension between us and right now is when I need him the most for my postpartum but I already feel single having to do things alone.. I'm tired of being patient and having to wait for so long for him to be able to be "emotionally available" when I know for a fact that he will never be that because he doesn't run off emotions and he'll never be compassionate. It's the worst feeling alone that I wouldn't wish on anyone. I'm sorry you had to endure that too.. I pray you have a easy safe and fast delivery though mama and all your pain you felt and been through disappears once you hold your little one ❤️

I mean we always talk sht about women of the past fighting for us NOT to be sahm and being able to work but they weren’t allowed to leave and we are. We have the right to leave and work and survive on our own. That’s a privilege! It was never picture perfect family they were beating their wives 😭 gotta change your perspective