Those of you that have previously had a miscarriage, super sorry for you, did you have other children in the mix did it help grieve quicker or did it just pro-long emotions as had to compress them around your babies?

I’m really sorry you are going through this. I promise it does get better. I’m here if you want to chat.

I think having my eldest was a distraction at times for sure, and stopped me from being able to hide away from the world- which was probably a good thing, but I certainly didn’t feel like I was being my usual self/normal mum mode. I was physically and emotionally struggling. I don’t think I would have grieved for a different period of time necessarily, but I was for sure able to cuddle him that bit tighter and count my blessings. He certainly helped to pick me back up off the floor, a silver lining in one of the hardest times we’ve ever gone through. I’m sorry for your loss.

Sending hugs🤗 its okay to grieve & completely normal for you to feel this way. My experience was slightly different from yours, as my first pregnancy was a missed miscarriage. Sorry that's as much as I can relate but, please be reassured that you're not alone with your emotions. Give yourself some time to greive❤️x

I knew what I was really missing out on when I had my baby. It made it worse honestly.

You’re not alone ❤️

For me, it's like all the love I had to give (built up from the 3 losses before) all poured out into my living children. It's almost like it helped me. I still have days where I sit back and think about how old they would be, and how many I'd have if they had survived. In my case though, after the 3rd loss, the doctoes finally figured out what was going wrong, which lead to my two living children. So I know that my kids wouldn't exist without those losses, so in a way I'm grateful to them for the kids I do have. I don't know if that makes any sense?

I think having my other children around made it easier in a sense because they distracted me. But dealing with the physical and emotional aspects of the miscarriage while taking care of them all day was also challenging at times too. Like I didn’t feel like I could just cry when I needed to, or rest the way I wanted to. But overall the distraction was good. And they genuinely make me so happy which also helped

I’m so sorry for your loss. Pregnancy loss is absolutely devastating, with or without another child. MC recovery is hard emotionally and physically. Try to give yourself lots of grace. Don’t feel bad for breaking down in front of your kiddo. You’re human. I’m not sure if it helps but I found a lot of peace in the statistics surrounding consecutive miscarriages. The odds of two consecutive miscarriages are 2% - meaning if you decide to keep trying (no rush/ pressure) there’s a 98% chance of success.

When we had our miscarriage we didn’t have our daughter but last year when our baby passed after birth our daughter was absolutely our saving Grace (quite literally that’s her name) she keeps us busy and stops us from completely falling apart but we still take the time when she’s in bed to have our grieving moments, for both our lost babies. I do find myself cuddling with her a lot more though which helps because she doesn’t fully understand what happened but she’s always there for an unconditional cuddle 🙏

Thank you so much 💗