How to chill out when others are holding my crying baby?
I have been looking forward to handing my baby off to anyone who wants her now that she has her first round of vaccines. She was held by people other than my partner and I when she was newborn but she was mostly asleep. Somehow she is always grumpy when we have new people around (I don’t think she has colic she definitely has about 1-2 hours/3 days a week when she cries for what seems like no reason). I get so anxious when she starts crying in other people’s arms because I don’t want them to feel bad and I know I can comfort her 90% of the time. She is 11 wks old. Will she grow out of this? Do I need to just let her cry with them? Should we just take her to an old folks home and let them pass her around until she gets used to it? I don’t know why this stresses me out so bad.
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It stresses you out because her cry is signaling to your brain that your baby needs you! Everything in your body is telling you to scoop up your child and that's exactly what you should do (: I still take my 16 month out of people's arms when she's crying. No questions asked. Not many people hold her, really just her grandparents, aunts/uncles. I don't pause, I go right over and get that baby! She calms immediately. Your baby needs you don't worry about anyone else's opinions.
Thanks, y’all! I’m being really hard on myself and my baby, expecting both of us to be perfectly behaved and not make anyone feel uncomfortable. Classic people, pleaser 😆 Having a little one is so humbling.
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Babies this young need to be with their mama. I think if she starts crying its okay to take them back. They'll definitely grow out of it. Some babies just need more comfort than others. They can only communicate with their cry, so even a little discomfort is a cry. But don't let anyone tell you holding your 11week old baby is coddling. That's just plain wrong. Trust your instincts!!