TW…Please don’t think I’m crazy…
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I’m afraid any scenario you look at seems like you will have to make a massive decision and lose something. And this is where I don’t think anyone can answer it for you. Xxx
I honestly will have my baby if husband loves me he will stick around if not well thinks my work with colleague if that doesn’t work at lest you will have your baby and not the horrible feeling of denying someone so innocent the chance of life After all is your decision
First off you need a dna test. Unless you are officially divorced, your husband name will go on the birth certificate.
If your baby is born next month, abortion is not an option anyways. Does the other guy want to be involved ?
If the colleague isn’t up for adoption, then he should be fine with taking full custody of the baby so that you can save your marriage.
You can’t abort a baby near arrival and the tuff truth is if you don’t deal with the fact that did this to yourself. And know that if you do give the baby up for adoption your other kids will find out eventually and resent you and if you keep the baby and treat it any different in the terms of love all three of your kids will probably grow up and resent you all you can do is LEAVE THOSE MEN ALONE! Put your big girl pants on and figure out how to do better on your own because with ever one you try and go with is probably going leave you or do what you did to you it would be just prolonging the inevitable end
Does the colleague not want to be with you? It sounds like your husband is secure and comfortable but it’s not fair to use him to pick up the pieces when you had an affair
I’m sorry to say but I’m afraid no one can really help here because it’s not the sort of situation anyone can help with. It’s an unusual scenario which is why it would be so hard. The fact you still love your husband enough to potentially want to stay with him would massively suggest that, had you have spoke to him in the first place, you both could have done things, therapy, or improved sex life options, to have gotten your marriage back to a better place and wouldn’t have ventured somewhere else for what you thought was missing. It’s a huge ask to want your current husband to take on someone else child knowing it’s a colleagues and someone he likely has met before, I mean I wouldnt know anyone that would do that. So the question is do you love you colleague? Do you see a life with this man? If not then the next question is could you do all of this on your own? I mean leave and have this baby on your own? What would a life like this look like for you?